Merry Christmas and please don't feel sad! Don't allow anyone to ruin this holiday for you; you have the right to have a great holiday just like everyone else.

Now turn on some Christmas music, dance around the house, and smile! Be happy because it's Christmas. I know it's hard to do, but I decided this year that I am going to have a great Christmas and I am not going to allow anyone to ruin it!

ME TOO!! DH painted the dream retirement when he talked me into quiting my job. I have not been home for Christmas in years becasue of my job. DH's work schedule does not work out to take a trip home for Chirstmas. DH is old school...GOD forbid I go home alone to see my 82 year old mother. After all, I am needed here for his needy mama for when he works.

I will agree with all u ladies... this xmas is turning horrible! I finally admitted to SO that I dont feel I have a xmas this year and am not happy at all. I turned the tree off while he was away at work. It would seem that SO has decided that I am to fit into his traditions with none of my own. He got mad... I give up... I guess I will have to raise my son with nothing I grew up with. I know this sounds whiney and I should just deal with it. However, I always thought the joy of xmas was to come together as a family and have those special things you do as a family. Oh well I suppose as long as the skids smile I will see some happiness even if it isnt my own.

Feeling the Christmas pain. Family is several states away and I miss them so much. On top of that, no coffee or wine at ILs place but lots of old photo albums with history that I was never part of. BM would be a much better fit for the blessed event. I would be happy to step aside and let her take over. To add to my pain and agony, FIL and MIL were irritated that we went home to do thanksgiving on my side this year. We did that because my adorable Dad's 80th was the week prior so we stayed to celebrate the first Thanksgiving I have spent with them, with DH along, since 2007. All holidays have been on DH's side since then except two Christmases where BS and I went back without DH, so it is not like I am depriving them of seeing DH and THEIR grand kids... Good grief, I could hardly get the tree up I was so depressed. Now I will get to spend Christmas in a dry and desolate land (no coffee or wine ). My son is grown and gone and DH will play Disney daddeeee to SD who will celebrate her third Christmas present opening ceremony in two days. Overindulgence of children bugs me. More trash for the landfills, all for the sake of a parental ego trip. Sorry everyone, but if am super homesick.

Have a blessed Christmas, anyway.

I could've wrote this, Not into it AT ALL. I honestly can't wait until it's over. Thats exactly what I'm doing is just going through the motions. I'm not even excited for my own bio. FDH and his family have sucked the life and joy out of the holiday this year. I just keep thinking one day I'm going out of town for xmas...getting away from all these toxic people..........LEt the drinking begin

Me too! DH did all the shopping and most of the wrapping. I am looking forward to seeing my BS but it just doesn't feel like Christmas at all. I'm not depressed or feel like there is anything wrong, it just doesn't feel like a holiday at all. It's Christmas eve and I am at work, my skids are at my home with DH. Extra time allowed to us and it's been good but I can't wait until 11am tomorrow, they go back to BM.

Me too, I am really sad about Christmas this time. I miss my dad so much who died a year ago, and my mom who has had dementia for years. I feel like the rest of my family has forgotten them, except for my one sis. At least dh will go with me tomorrow to see my mom.

Sd not due til next week. I did not get her anything, and it was a huge relief. Reject that lol! But I am hurting, thanks for letting me tell someone