SS14 is just that; a 14 year old. While he is my heart and joy and I love him with everything I have; he is still a teenager and I could strangle him!

I have been his stepmother (full time custody--biomom completely out of the picture) for over 7 years now. He is a high functioning autistic kiddo. I am savvy enough to know the difference between an autistic meltdown and just typical bratty teenage behavior. Last night, he was being a bratty teenager.

A very Bratty teenager.

I called him on his bullshit; as I always do. When it was time for bed; he was using every, single, tired, delay tactic in the book. I kept blocking him in the hall and telling him to turn around and head to his room. It was time for bed.

He screamed at me..."You never let me do anything with Dad!"

I turned and looked at DH. After SS14 was out of earshot I said, "Deal with that immediately. This will NOT become a bios against step household. We've made it this far without the STEP being a problem. Nip that in the bud NOW. I know I am the disciplinarian because you prefer to let me take that role; but you WILL let him know that the decisions we make are joint and YOU will take the blame for some of them. I refuse to be labeled the wicked stepmother."

Tonight there will be a family meeting. SS14 is being grounded for his behaviour last night. DH is doing the grounding. I am going to be drinking wine.