Always have to compromise because of the kids....
I took off Thursday from work because it is BS's third birthday. I wanted to spend the day with him and just have some good mommy-son time.
I also took the day off so that I can take BS into school so he can have cake and icecream with all his friends and play some party games. I mentioned it to the daycare director weeks ago and she said that the kids would be super excited about it.
Well, come to find out now, that Thursday is picture day so the only time they would be able to do his party is after 2pm. Which means that the skids will be out of school and at the daycare already. I have no problem putting my foot down to keep them from intruding on Bs's time with his little class mates, but now I have to pick them up and bring them home with me when the party is done, rather than picking them up closer to 6 at the end of the day (or Dh could have gotten them and BS and I could have stayed out as long as we liked). There goes half of my special day with BS, and now there's 4 extra hours of me being stressed.
So now I can either send his party stuff in on Wed and not get to be there with him and take pictures.
Or I can do it on Thursday at planned and waste half my day off.
Why oh why can't I ever just do what I want to do without the skids always altering my plans.
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Why can't you leave the SKids
Why can't you leave the SKids at daycare until 6pm? Even if you had 5 bio kids, I could see you wanting to spend each of their birthdays with them with no other kids involved...making it their special day.
Dh would give me a ton of
Dh would give me a ton of shit for it. So unless I can come up with a decent reason as to why I couldn't take them with me, he will be pissed..... That I slighted them, the extra gas to go all the way back to the daycare again, blah blah.
I could do it, and I might.... But again... It's a compromise. Get the day I wanted, but deal with a pissy Dh for days.
why dont you suggest on doing
why dont you suggest on doing the party on Friday? Tell the center you dont want them to feel rushed with picture day.
you should be able to have
you should be able to have the day with your bs! you give up a lot for his kids. you can do something special with your bs!
let him get over it. how irritating. i'm po'd for you.
The kids don't attend the
The kids don't attend the daycare on Fridays anymore (yet another compromise I'm still pissy about) due to the skids behavior. Our choice was either not bring them one day a week, or pay more money to watch them full time.
So I have to get the skids directly from school on Fridays at 2. I have weekly prenatal appointments on Fridays now, so I couldn't go do it Friday morning.
I just have so little that is
I just have so little that is just for me, it kills me when the few things that I look forward to get overtaken. And it always happens. I'll be looking forward to something for weeks and weeks (yes, that's how long I have to wait for a good day) and inevitably, something comes up and the skids are all up I'm my day.
This not being able to take the skids to daycare on Fridays has really thrown me for a loop. (its been about 6 weeks now). It just feels like every little enjoyment I have in life is being slowly stripped away. Everytime I readjust and find a way to cope, something else comes up.
I know I'm putting too much into this, but I really just want to cry about it right now.
Sounds like your DH likes to
Sounds like your DH likes to use emotional blackmail to get you to do what HE wants. Thats torment, not a relationship. Time your DH learns to compromise me thinks.
I appreciate how hard it is having to live with a husband who is sulky, moody and annoyed because you havent lived up their unreasonable expectations when it comes to their ex's and kids, been there, done that. Its HORRIBLE.
So guess you should ask yourself if this is one occasion where you will allow DH to control you or put you and your ds first? I say this as I know it can often be worse looking back and deeply regretting missing out on occasions you cannot recapture.