Friday was a no school day. I told the kids Thursday night that they were going to daycare and not staying home. I wake up Friday morning to the skids watching tv in their pajamas. I tell them to get dressed that they knew they were going to daycare. Dh Dh pipes up from the other room that he told them that they were staying home since there was no school. I tell him that I have errands and cleaning that I do on Fridays, and I deserve a few hours to relax, and that they are going to daycare. He gets attitude and says that he didn't know that. I say, well, the kids knew it because I told them last night.

I take them (ss10, Sd9, and bs3) to daycare. Dh is asleep before I get back and sleeps until it is time for him to go to work (1pm). So just like I thought, had they stayed home, it would have been all on be to deal with them. No thank you, I work too hard all week (ten hour days m-th) to have my Friday ruined. After I woke him up I went straight to the daycare and picked just BS3 up. We went to have portraits done of my two, and they came out fantastic. We had fun at the mall until it was time to get the skids....closing time at the daycare.

Sat: I had asked Dh last week to come with me to the Pumpkin Patch this weekend, as I have a hard time dealing with all 4 kids by myself (ie: the skids act like animals and I don't want to deal with it). He agreed. I reminded him mid week. Sat morning I remind him that Pumpkin Patch starts at 12, so we need to leave at 1130 so we have time to go and get back before he needs to leave for work. Now Dh says he's not going. That he needs to leave early for work because hw needs to see Bil on the way. So now the kids already know we are going, so I am stuck taking them by myself.

As I am changing the baby I see SD snuggled up to Dh and ask him something. When I come back to the room he tells me, SD asked if she can bring a dollar to get her face painted and I told her yes, so don't go flipping out on her. "First off, there is no face painting, and secondly, what makes you think a dollar would be enough even if there was?" "well, I don't know, I don't ever go to these things you would know better than me" "exactly, so why are you the one making the decision, you should have referee her to me" SD come back out holding her dollar, and I tell her to go put it away that there's no face painting. Dh-"why can't you just let her bring it?" " well, she has no pockets in her costume, so she will be carrying it all day. How is she going to docthe crafts while clutching that dollar all day? I'm not dealing with that"

Got total dirty looks and attitude from SD the whole time. One would think that shed have given it up when she saw that THERE WAS NO FACE PAINTING.... But no, I'm still the evil sm who wouldn't let yer get her face painted. We get home, and suprise suprise, Dh is still home. Didn't leave for work early after all. So he could have come and helped me, but he didn't. Joking around he asked if there was any facepainting.....no, I told you there's no face painting. And in the future, if I am taking the kids somewhere and you aren't coming, refer all questions to me, SD was awful all day because you told her she could take a dollar." "whats the big deal" "ok, so even if they had face painting, did you even think to ask me if I had cash to let the other three kids get their faces painted? Did you tell SS to bring a dollar if he wanted his face painted? She knew damn well that you werent going, so she shouldn't have even asked you, she should have asked me. When I take them places, its my rules. Feel free to come xnext time" "nope, I don't need that stress" (but I do?!?)

Sun: We take the kids to Busch Gardens. The kids went on a ton of rides. We got them hot dogs, frenchcfries, funnel came, icecream, and sluprees. Great day for the kids. Dh started to feel sick so we were heading out when SD sees a face painting booth. She asks Dh if sue can get her face painted. Dh says no, that we are leaving. SD starts to pout and get mad attitude. Dh tried to play with her and joke around to get her to snap out of it (his usual MO). She rolls her eyes at him and huffs. He finally had enough of her crap. Calls her an ingrate and made her walk behind us. When we got home he lit into her and told her that since she thinks because he plays with her and jokes around with her that somehow they are equals, that its over now. They aren't friends, they are just father and daughter. That the next time she gets it twisted in her head that she can treat him like one of her little friends on the playground, that she will get spanked.

Sigh..... Its always next time....next time. Never deals with this time. No taking away tv, no appology, no extra chore.....nothing. but next time.......