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overworkedmom's picture

AHH (a$$hole hubs) made it a week and then, just like that he was back to his old self. I actually was having a few nagging doubts about leaving. That maybe this last fight made things click for him. NOPE. He can only be a decent human being for 1 week, and only after a crisis. What kills me is that it wasn't like this until we got married. As soon as we tied the knot he wanted total control over me. He doesn't like that I work. In fact he said the only reason I have my job is so that I can prepare to leave him. That wasn't ever the case until now, but hey, I guess it is what it is.

I was thinking about what is wrong with me this morning. This being my second marriage, there has to be something off with me too. I think that I sent him mixed messages. I am very traditional in marriage. I do follow the more submissive wife role. I respect the man as head of the home. HOWEVER!!! I will not tolerate being disrespected myself. I do expect to be treated in a loving and kind matter. If him, or any other man for that manner can't do that, Bye-Bye. I can and will take care of myself and my kids. I don't want to do it alone but I will.

Anyway, I am glad he is back to normal. Makes things easier. Hopefully I will know for sure about the house I am trying to rent today!!

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overworkedmom's picture

Yeah, I always go for the "damaged" ones. I feel like they need me, and I need to be needed. Load of crap. I am not choosing the next few people I date when I decide to do that. Those men will have to be selected by a board of my friends!! Blum 3

princessmofo's picture

I think I'm done with men. "I should've listened to my mother and became a nun. Seriously, it's steady work. They provide the uniform. And you're married to God, at least he's home every night." (Sophia, The Golden Girls)

Really, I don't care anymore. I know H and I will not last. I'm resigned to it. And personally I don't want to get "involved" with someone else. I don't care about what they like, what kind of toothpaste they use, what their parents/ex did to f*ck them up. Nope, don't give a flying fruit loop about it. Leave me to my own devices. I don't get lonely, I enjoy the solitude.