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Been A while but frustrated and upset

Overstressed's picture

so bm is asking for more and more money and we just can't afford it i told my husband i'm not sending her a dime anymre unless our bills are paid i honestly don't know how we have made it this long on how little we have left we just sent her 500 on top of the 1200 child support and she sends a message a week later saying we need to send her another 300 she has flat out stated that she is gong to keep this up till my husband signs his rights away which would neverhappen but thats what she wants and i hate to say but it has crossed my mind that it might be the best thing i love my ss8 i have tons of fun with him and we have always had a good relationship even with the things his mothe trys to put in his head about me but i am just so tiered i don't know what to do any more

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DASKRA's picture

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO... STOP what you are doing. Why the HELL (sorry for the language) are you sending her Extra money. Child support is set for a reason. I am sorry to sound so harsh but I don't understand why you would send her so much money when she gets 1200 already. What does she have on DH that makes him think he has to give into her?

Overstressed's picture

the court papers say ontop of the child support we have to pay half of medical extracricular and child care my husband not caring at the time about anything but seeing his son agreed to it butit's just going to far

DASKRA's picture

You can have this modified and I suggest you do right away. You need to support yourself. OMG does BM even work. She wouldn't have to with that much CS.

Overstressed's picture

oh yea she makes 55000 a year problem being that we can't even afford an attn to have it re done we sent the paperwork into the cs agency two moths ago and still hvent herd anything

DASKRA's picture

You need to follow up. In our state you don't need an attorney and they have 30 days to set a date for a hearing for review. Double check your state laws on these things. Stay informed and proactive.

Overstressed's picture

i try to i am just tierd me and my husband only fight about this stuff and i'm just really wanting to not feel like i don't have control over anythingbecause of her we where trying to get pregnant untill i finally said i cant see it being right that my child would have so much less just because of my ss mother taking so much

Overstressed's picture

yea we have been doing that the last 6 months when i got involved cause se tried to charge us for the full amout of something

12yrstepmonster's picture

Tell her to send copies of the bills so you know who to make the check out to. No longer make them out to bm.