I mean...ok so luckily still the ex doesn't have my bf's n...that's a good thing. We dont' have to hear from her when we have the girl. YEs-it's stressful, Sunday her and my youngest fought-but overall it was much less then other wknds.

But the things her mom does send me over the edge...just reiterate why my bf is so attentive w/his daughter...the mom just doesn't bother. She's the "put on the good front" mom at soccer games, etc..but drops her daughter off all the time w/others, grandparents, friends, always trying to bring her to the bf even unnanounced or w/no notice. Or pawn her off anywhere, anytime.

It breaks my heart! So about a month ago when she was with us-the ex called him and texted to ask the D to call her she had a big surprise. He didn't. She kept on insisting. He asked why-well she sends a pic of her "new puppy" who she-the mom-had already named... ugg.. ok so we still don't have her call because shoot she can wait till she's home to show her-this is his time w/his D. Needless to say..I asked him why she hasn't mentioned her new puppy to us yet-she's crazy about his dog and my dog. He was afraid to ask-but we finally did. Sure enough...the ex gave it away. We don't know if she was babysitting it-or took it and realized the responsibilites were too much but she gave it up. She's done this w/three other pets!!!

The girl simply said sadly-I don't know why she did it, I don't understand it, it was sad..and changed the topic. This woman has NO decency! I mean she knows the girl gets super attached to pets. She doesn't care-why present it as "her new pet" if she was just watching it for someone-or at least say we'll try it out...don't you KNOW pupps are work? Why put the girl through this???

She doesn't care to give her ANY consistency and permanency/stability. She's moved at least 6 times since their divorce. With family, with her lesbian "friend", then back to a friends, then family. SHe's changed schools 6 times (we re-counted) and is not in middle school yet!!!

They ask her to wait ON THE PORCH till her grandma gets home 30mins or so later after she gets off the bus...wtf?

THEN...OH i was so mad...the girl was dropping on the floor tired when she came over Friday-she had school all day. Then a soccer practice. My bf picked her up at her house-he waited till the bus got home...because she now leaves her clothes on her moms porch...before she hauled it around all friday at school.
They do soccer practice and come over to my place for a bit.

I ask her if she slept enough-she went to bed at 930 the night before but said she had to get up at 5AM!! YES, 5 AM! To pack her bag for her dads and finish washing her soccer clothes which her mom hadn't done. She is 9!! What kind of POS mother does this. YES it's annoying to pack the bags, but our kids didn't ask to be in this situation-and perhaps you can HELP her pack the bag and get her stuff ready the day before and her laundry. The kid already gets up on her own, gets ready for school on her own and out the door...she's been doing this since she was in K5 because her lazy mom didn't want to help her and just slept.

I mean if you know you didn't have time the night before-help her as her mom, let her sleep-she needs it...and pack her bag for her. I mean I'm all for chores and responsibility but this is just over the top neglect. The poor girl can't be a CHILD. It's no wonder my bf tries to treat her well and be so tentative w/her...thats the only place at our home she gets it. That's why she asks us to get married. I think she believes it will solve things or she can move in w/us.

I made sure she showered in my bathroom, and put her to bed in my bed so she could sleep as the boys were still up-she was out in a second. We do let her do things..we had taco night and we cooked all the kids arranged their own tacos how they wanted them. He's letting her more and more do things when he sees her sayign "i'll do it". But I get it, I so get it now. And I"m so mad at her mom. She is just lazy, selfish, manipulative, controlling, and a shitty ass mother! I can tell you we had to control ourselves and not say a WORD as the girl told us these things...we just looked at eachother and talked about it later. But damn it...it's all about the CS w/her!