I found this sight - and started to write out my long story with the history of the BM (which I thought stood for 'bad mother' before I read the FAQ...its fitting!) and me and my DH...but its just too long...

My problem is that she's just a bad person - she's not abusive or an addict... in fact she's the opposite. She's kind, and nice, and sweet, and relatable, and she makes you feel all warm in fuzzy inside... and then you walk away like what the HELL JUST HAPPENED!!!