My Grand daughter
MsZ is 5 and as her mother/DD and SF had been up at the hospital all night with her sick baby brother I offered to have her back here for dinner with DH and I ... shower her and bring her home in time for bed.
On the drive back from DDs place Msz tells me "Grandma I have to tell you something but I don't want to tell mummy because she will get sad. KC (her father's gf) said I can call her mummy but I don't want to because I have a mummy but I don't want to hurt KCs feelings."
Who the hell puts these kinds of pressures on a 5 yr old? Now if she slipped up because she was tired and called her mummy by mistake fair enough. But as MsZ says it she has told her 'lots of time Grandma but I don't want to."
This chick is WAAAY overstepping her boundaries and gives us SMs all a bad name. She has twin daughters (2 yrs old) and has been with MsZs father for about 6 months. They call the twins MsZs 'sisters' yet this is the same man who refused to refer to my DH as MsZs 'grandpa' because he 'isn't blood'. DD and her ex both agreed not to paint MsZs fingernails because she is in preschool and it is not appropriate. Now KC has told her she WILL paint fingernails even when MsZ says no.
DD and ex and MsZ have an appointment with MsZs behavioural therapist next week. Guess what DD is bringing up? Never has she allowed MsZ to call her SF ..Daddy. As MsZ says she has a daddy and a mummy.
This chick REALLY needs to back off.
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A nut-job that my SO dated
A nut-job that my SO dated prior to me told my SD (then 5) the exact same freaking thing. My MIL told me about it when she noticed that I was not going to take the "mom" name on with the SKids...she did not understand why one woman would practically insist on being called mom & another (of roughly the same age) would refuse to be called mom. I explained that the birthing process gave the SKids a mother & I will NOT be trying to fill her narcissistic skanky shoes...I'm a SM and proud (sometimes) of the role I play...and it's all mine.
Some women are simply NUTS. Hopefully, MsZ's dad will put a stop to that in a hurry. It's not fair for poor little Z!
What a perceptive and smart child! You must be very proud Oneoffour
Actually a lot of articles
Actually a lot of articles and books sat a child should refer to the step parent as mom or dad. Maybe she's been reading up.
Do I think its right no, just saying I read it in a ton of step parenting articles.