Stupid BM, Stupid Ex-H, Damn Stupid Cat!!!
My foul mood may be due to lack of sleep because our freakin' cat loves to get up on high places and then dive right into the middle of the bed, usually up near my head, pulling my hair. If we shoo him out and close the door, he will just sit there digging at the door until we let him back in. He can't stand a closed door. Spoiled rotten entitled POS!
My foul mood may be due to BM and her wanting to make changes to the schedule again. No big deal. Her nephew is getting married on OUR weekend, and understandably, she wants her kids to be there with her. Of course, it's not a problem, but anything to do with her just irks me, you know?
My foul mood may be due to SS's school assuming that his primary custody is with his mother (no, it's with us). Yes, we share 50/50 custody, but they go to schools in OUR district. Also, the little box was checked that DH is not to receive mailings from the school. Again, not a big thing, but annoying.
My foul mood may be due to the fact that I still own a house with my Ex because he's too lazy to freakin' refinance his house, thus my name is still on the deed and mortgage. My foul mood is probably due to the fact that I got papers in the mail this past week that the house has indeed been forclosed on and will be sold by the Master Commissioner, because he refuses to pay any of his bills!!! (His car was also repossessed - he makes good money, and for the life of me I can't understand why he is in this position). So, there goes my $18,000 worth of equity HE STILL OWES ME!!!! SHIT!
Or hey, it could just be PMS. Damn I need a drink!
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damn girl!
that sucks! Can you sue him for the amount of equity in the home?
Yes.
We have a hold-harmless clause in our divorce agreement. If he should default on any of the debts he took on after our divorce, I can sue if the debtors come after me. Not only that, I have already filed a judgment against him, which basically puts another lien on the house (besides MSD's lien and his own attorney). The house is such bad condition that there's no way it's going to sell for what is needed to get the equity. Remember the hurricane last September? Well, a tree fell in the backyard and landed on his shed. You know what - it's still there! During the ice storm in January, another tree fell in the back yard - it's still there. The neighbors have called the city and code inspectors have been out there telling him to clean up the place, paint the house, etc. He hasn't done it. The roof is starting to sag. It's pitiful how he has let it go. I mean, don't most men have pride?? He is under a court order to pay me the equity, but how can it be enforced when he "says" he doesn't have any money. At this point, I'm resigned that I will never see a drop of it.
I'm happy the bank is taking the house. At least this way my name will be off of the deed and mortgage as it should have been three years ago. Yeah, my credit is suffering, but my wonderful, RESPONSIBLE husband has near-perfect credit, so we'll get by, and credit can be repaired over time.
I treated myself to a Java Chip today. When I get home, I'm going to treat myself to a nice big bourbon and coke - then I plan on passing out!
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Don't you just love days/weeks/months like this?!
I hear ya!!! I'm in a fairly good mood today, but at times in the last couple of months I just want to scream!
#1) Dealing with all the BM crap. It's been such a rollercoaster for MONTHS now. I just want to go to court & get this ironed out so we know where we stand. But who knows when that will happen. My husband called the court yesterday & was told that around this time of year (just before school) the judge is usually really backed up with custody cases. Lovely! So....what do we do? School starts in a week & a half. BM moved 45 minutes away & registered SD9 at the school there. My husband & BM have 50/50 custody, so how can she do this? If we don't go to court before school starts, what do we do? Do we register SD9 at the school here, which would make us as slimy as BM, plus it's going to upset SD9 who has been told by BM that she's going to school there? Does my husband drive SD9 45 minutes to school every morning, which means leaving super early & my husband being a half hour late for work every day? Does my husband have SD9 stay at BM's for school weeks & just have her every other weekend (which is what BM wants)? Then we have to pay BM child support, which is going to hurt us so badly financially that I just want to cry. It seems like every option we have screws us over. BM did this on purpose! Oh yeah, and we still have to establish that my husband is even SD9's father. Fun, fun!
#2) Working on our house. When we bought our house in April we had no idea of how much work was in store for us! As soon as the weather warmed up, the "finished basement" where we have 2 bedrooms & a bathroom started to smell awful. And since I'm pregnant, those smells are magnified! It was a urine smell from animals in the rug, so my husband ripped up the rug in our bedroom & the hallway to start. Well, the urine smell went away, but now there's an overwhelming damp basement odor. The bathroom is getting moldy. We had an earwig invasion, which forced us to sleep on the couch for a week while my husband sprayed outside & inside to kill them. We then moved our bed up to the living room, where we'll be sleeping until we finish the upstairs bedroom (getting there!). I hate going downstairs now. There are still straggler earwigs, plus all kinds of bugs...including crickets! You know something is not quite right when you have freakin' crickets in your bathroom!!! But it's so obvious that the basement isn't actually finished. I mean, they just painted & put up molding & the rugs. The concrete is rough & hasn't been sealed (hence, the damp odor & mold). It's terrible. And it'll be a while before we can work on that project. And what a project that is going to be!!!
I guess those are my two biggest complaints right now. It's not that bad, really, but can be stressful! Not really something I need, especially since I'm pregnant.