BM NEVER arranged for her children to call their father's parents on their birthday. Not while they were married nor the 2 years that preceded my husband's grant for divorce. However, now that her ex has remarried, it seems BM has a sudden interest in taking over this task. I can only assume that doing so makes BM feel like a hero. If you are wondering, what my thoughts are on this; I would like to say to BM, get a life, one that is your own and move on! She didn't want the life when she had it nor did she want it after the divorce.