disciplining the children
i wish i could feel comfortable disciplining these kids the way i would do it if they were mine. the other day the 4 yr old girl was on time out standing in the corner of the kitchen, got bored apparently and scraped off paint from the kitchen cabinet. i was so pissed off. all that happened though when i told the father was she apologized to me for it and the father told me we will repaint them when we have time. if it were me, she deserved a spanking and should have to pay for the paint out of her allowance she has saved up. everytime she does anything wrong, all that happens is she will apologize and say she forgot the rules but will remember next time. the dad is way to easy on her. the 6 yr old boy is fairly easy to handle when it comes to discipline. but the 4 yr old is much harder. it requires so much of my attention. its just not fair. my cabinet is ruined now and i pride myself on having a clean house with a few nice things in it. its driving me nuts having fingerprints all over the computer screen and nothing is ever put away and the house always needs to be cleaned. as soon as its cleaned, someone comes along and messes it all up. i feel like i spend half my time at home cleaning the kitchen. i refuse to have a dirty kitchen for fear of bugs, roaches, mice, etc. so i am constantly sweeping and wiping off counters and tables. and what really sucks is the dishwasher broke yesterday so i'm having to wash everything by hand. i get the kids to help clean but then the dad pays them every time instead of a weekly allowance. they are already conditioned to think they are getting paid and wont do it unless there is money involved. im not paying them to clean up their own damn messes. i had them cleaning the walls last night from their dirty handprints all over it and they told their mama that. she proceeded to tell me about child labor laws and i better pay them for their services. are you freaking kidding me?
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i feel like i should be paid.
i feel like i should be paid. im terrified to see the electric and water bill with the kids here now. i cant get them to close the door. they are always in and out even when i tell them to pick one or the other. they will come back inside to tell me they chose outside. its crazy. i dont know how much of this stuff is normal. if parenthood is always like this, i think i might want my tubes tied. i've had the kids cleaning up their messes before and they do a half ass job with it. if i try to tell them to clean it better then their father says, there only kids, you can only expect so much from them. if i ask him to do it, he says he will get it later. i can't stand a dirty house so its easier to just shut the f up and do it myself.
so basically you had to deal
so basically you had to deal with a messy house for a little while until your SO got tired of it? is it generally clean now? i tend to (or used to) have a lot of BBQs and guests over and its embarrassing to have people over when the house is dirty. i dont want to invite people over if i have to apologize for the way the house looks. i agree the kids shouldnt be paid for every task they do. a weekly allowance if their chores are done, yes. but if chores are not completed, then they should lose their allowance or be docked. these kids get a dollar each when they pick up their room or the toys out of the living room. any task they do is usually a dollar. sometimes they get 2 dollars each. so they are banking about 20$ a week. i think that is way too much for a 4 and 6 yr old. they dont even understand the concept of money yet.
I don't and won't pay my
I don't and won't pay my children for cleaning their home, their messes they live here free room and board and when they are adults they won't get paid to take care of their own homes why set an example that won't follow into adulthood. Now if they go above and beyond everyday cleaning I pay them. You don't have to answer to BM not her house not her place like to see her try and take chores to a labor board the laughter would be fantastic. If dad wants to pay that's his problem. I see nothing wrong with parents giving an allowance for regular chores to each their own. I don't give an allowance because I'm to broke to guarantee I can pay and don't offer what I can't follow through on. My kids get money for good grades and extra work not the day to day.
i feel the way you do too. i
i feel the way you do too. i just wish the parents could see it that way. lol, i had two dogs before i met my SO...maybe i should pay them for using the bathroom outside and sitting when told to sit. haha