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"Her", "She", and "The evil one"

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Submitted by OKCStep on Thu, 05/03/2012 - 10:47pm

I was graced with having to hear a conversation between SS11 and BM tonight. BM (or Crazy Lady) has no custody, supervised visits, pays no CS and has no job. But, she thinks she is MOTY and I am the ONLY reason she doesn't have her kid. In her conversation with the wonderful, sweet, perfect SS11, she tells him that how awful I am, that she is so sorry his dad married me, and her house is so much better than mine. Ofcourse, he agreed. He cant stay up late, cant have a cat and doesn't get to watch the big screen Tv. I am awful! Why do I do aanything nice? Why even try?

Keeping Promises

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Submitted by OKCStep on Wed, 04/11/2012 - 11:08am

Why is it so difficult for Dh's to keep their word? "I promise I will step up and be the disciplinarian in the house. I promise I will stop putting you in positions to be the bad guy. I promise you I will start being consistent with my son." All of it is bull. The minute SS11 bats his pretty eyes, smiles, says "I love you, Dad", my DH caves in to every demand. Then, the SS11 rules the house once again. Gets what he wants. Does what he wants. Treats me however he would like. And, DH wonders why I am acting pissed off? Because I am the lowest of the low in my OWN HOME!

Disgust

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Submitted by OKCStep on Fri, 10/07/2011 - 10:26am

Does anyone else get disgusted with the bio-mom? And, your DH for ever being married, involved, and intimate with her? Bio-mom is a felon, disgusting, alcoholic, manipulating, liar and sometimes I can't help but be horribly disgusted with my DH for ever being with her. She is so horrible that she doesn't even have unsupervised visitation with her own kid. Of course, to hear her speak to her child, she is the best mom in the world and DH and I are liars and awful people.

I hope I am not the only one... because I feel awful about it.

So this is what the end of a rope looks like...

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Submitted by OKCStep on Mon, 09/26/2011 - 1:37pm

Just an update before I get started:
*Married 3.5 years.
*Full custody of a 10.5y/o SS.
*BM is only allowed supervised visits.

I have done quite a bit of research on the subject of Step-Moms. And in all of it the one reoccuring theme is the husbands generally parent off guilt and fear. My husband is no exception to the rule.

New and Venting

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Submitted by OKCStep on Tue, 07/26/2011 - 4:11pm

We have full custody of SS10. Mother is only allowed to visit with supervision (horrible human).

My problem is that SS10 is pretty disrespectful to me. He tries to get in between H and I. Tries?? He succeeds. Each night, I get about 10 minutes of H's time. If that.

When SS10 does something disrespectful, wrong, horrible... and I get onto him about it, I get yelled at by H in front of SS10. If SS10 asks for a trip to the store - I tell him not this week but the weekend - I get yelled at for making a decision without consulting H.