bleh sorry about this entry its so scattered right now. im so worried and out of it! so dh has been trying to get a job closer to sd with his old company for about a month now. they finally agreed to the terms his old boss set out and tomorrow he is finalizing paper work. its going to be about 120 miles away from me though just for two more years until i finish my degree program because they dont have it where he is located.

today he gets the paperwork his lawyer sent stating exactly what bm wants regarding money. she wants back child support (somewhat understandable, except dh tried to give it to her and she wouldnt take any money from him that is when she wouldnt let him see sd for 6 months) she is trying to claim that he didnt give her any money for the whole year of last year, and that sd didnt stay with him at all overnights. but she did, twice a week on his days off. that was before any court order and there are several witnesses to prove that she was over there every week. i was telling him that he will probably have to pay back child support for that 6 months atleast since there was no contact, even though he tried, but he doesnt have enough proof that he did try to give her money... not sure what is going to happen but were both upset about it, its close to 3000 dollars that she is asking for and that she thinks hes just going to agree to it without going to court/mediation again.

since he is moving closer, im glad that they didnt get the final custody order put in yet because he is going to ask for an extra two days on the weekends that he doesnt have her. so he would have her like 10 days a month instead of 4.(eowe) damn sure know she wouldnt give it to him if its not in the court order. (maybe unless she was just wanting to get sd off her back... )so im glad the custody order isnt final yet. he would like even more than that but im not going to be moving with him yet so noone will be there to watch her when he has to go to work. He would like to fight for joint custody but his lawyer is going to ask him for another 1500 if he does that and since his company now is pretty shiesty he doesnt have that much saved up right now.

part of me wants to disengage from it all, not from sd, but just from the situation and not worry so much about it. i worry that he wont document anything when he moves, ive been doing it all. he is not very detailed oriented. part of me just wants to say screw it im done helping you, you can do it all yourself. blehhh well he is coming up the stairs so i gotta run.