Took my SS10 to his first appt yesterday with the therapist and thank god now there is someone in my corner. Based on SS10s attitude towards me leading up to the appt I thought for sure it would be a slow motion train wreck but thankfully this therapist was able to cut thru all of his bullshit. He asked me real specifically everything that was going on with SS10 and asked tons of history and questions to us both. SS10 did everything in his power to paint me as the bad guy and also raised his voice and tried to argue with the therapist on several occasions. At the end of the appt he excused SS10 and proceeded to talk to me and DH only. He said that he would like to perform some tests on SS10 because he feels that he has ADHD and ODD, oppositional definiance disorder, and several other issues. He said that SS10 has a serious impulse control problem and severe anger issues to boot. He then said that he would like to see SS10 on a weekly basis for intense therapy to address these and other issues. He said that there is some serious red flags that are going off for him that truly concern him. SS10 has a history of cruelty towards animals, fire starting, fascination with weapons and violence, and a severe hatred towards anyone in a position power. He says that in his professional opinion all of these issues and traits have been around long before I came into the picture but they are so much more prevalant now because he is no longer in a position of power himself. All of this is an attempt to regain his power and simply put to make me go away. The therapist then added it would put me and my BIO kids in a very vunerable position to engage him on a daily basis alone since no one at this point knows what SS10 is capable of. It was his recomendation to find alternative child care for him for the remainder of the summer, which is something I am working on today. The therapist then referred us to a partner of his to have SS10 evaluated for medication, that appt is tomorrow morning. It is so nice to have everything my gut has been telling me for years confirmed but at the same time it scares me to think that in no uncertain terms this child is dangerous and he lives under our roof. My DH is upset but this therapist really opened his eyes to things. I know it won't be an easy road and we have have just started the battle but I am hoping that we can continue to work as a team and that there will be a light at the end of the tunnel, there is ofcourse no light yet but I am hopeful.