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Submitted by notsobad on Wed, 09/09/2015 - 10:54pm

I was recently at a baby shower and it was odd. New Mom is also an SM and wants so badly to engage it's painful.

Her DH has a daughter with a girl he didn't marry. BM wanted to and thought a baby would force him into marriage. (At least that's her side of the story)

She flaunts the fact that she didn't have to get pregnant for him to marry her, in front of SD(12) This baby is #2 for them, they've been together since SD was 4.
She makes SD call her Momma.
Complains about the school not treating her the same as BM.
Trash talked BM insensately, from the clothes that she wears to the car she drives.
Bitterly complained about all the money THEY have to give BM for CS, new mom doesn't work but HD has a high income.
Said she wished BM would just give her and DH custody since she's a SAHM and BM has to work. Yes, in almost the same breathe she complained about CS and also that BM works!

There was nothing really bad about BM. I told her about some of the crazy our BM has pulled and she hadn't had any of that. There's no drugs, or PAS, or new BFs every week, or asking for extra money or any of the things I've read on here.

SD is a nice kid, polite, friendly, helpful and respectful. She's with DH and SM one night a week and EOWE, two full weeks each month in the summer.

It was really uncomfortable, she thought a few of us there would agree with her because we are SMs but we all felt the same. One girl told her she should count her lucky stars and just enjoy her own kids. I kept my mouth shut but felt the same. It was like she was looking for drama.

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Submitted by notsobad on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 5:54am

Yes, she should but no she won't.

Maybe having two bio kids will keep her busy enough that she won't have time to look for drama.

If he ever did leave her, she would be the nightmare BM of all BMs. He would end up all alone.

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Submitted by Indigo on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 12:23am

You could always refer her here when the board gets slow ... then, slip a note to sueu2, tommar, echo, sally and a few dozen others. {snickering} Sorry, that was an evil thought.

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Submitted by notsobad on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 5:49am

Bahahahaha!

I honestly thought about it but decided it might cause too much drama here.

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Submitted by stepinafrica on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 1:01am

WOW! She is definitely looking for problems where there are none.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 4:33am

Okay some of those are some of the things we complain about here like how the BM dresses and what she drives, but the working and CS *eyeroll* AND making the kid call her mom...the kid is already 12, so you should have told her to stop poking the bear because the one thing worse than an irate BM is a hormonal Stepdaughter and it's coming.

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Submitted by ScrewUboozilla on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 9:54am

That's exactly what I was thinking... The karma train is coming.... Just wait for SD to release her hormonal fury.

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Submitted by BSgoinon on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 9:23am

I'd be much more willing to pay BM some CS if she worked. Help yourself and then we will help you. It pisses me off to no end that she thinks it's ok for DH and I to work our asses off while she sits at home with her thumb up her ass and wants us to give her money. And.... we have SS more than she does, and we provide his every need. I'd die to have a BM like the one she complains about.

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Submitted by Stepmom09 on Thu, 09/10/2015 - 11:32am

Come on BM's can't work they are too messed up from having to be a single mom. Even if they aren't anymore then just can't handle the stress of parenting and working. Us SM even with Bios don't understand how hard they have it. lol thats what our BM would lead anyone to believe.

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Submitted by HMommy on Fri, 09/11/2015 - 5:28am

Ok, so we have a SM that was commiserating with friends. I would assume that 'friends' would be attending her baby shower. I say give her a break, she was probably venting and said some inappropriate things to a group she considered safe. I'm glad I'm not a part of that circle.

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Submitted by HMommy on Fri, 09/11/2015 - 10:34am

Yes... 'Slap' a friend into her senses and give her a piece of my mind. Not talk to others behind her back.

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Submitted by notsobad on Sat, 09/12/2015 - 8:41pm

Not really, she doesn't have many friends. It was family and extended family.

She is the cousin of my niece by marriage. I've met her 1/2 a dozen times.

That was part of what made it awkward, we should have been talking about babies and she spent the whole time complaining about BM.