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SD (31) dating man with 3 kids

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Submitted by notsobad on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 1:35pm

SD(31) has never been married or lived with anyone. She's had some long term relationships but never with anyone with kids.

We only just found out that she's dating this guy, not even sure how serious it is but she is bringing him to a family wedding. Which is big in this family.

He's 39, has 3 kids, between 12 and 3. He's Mormon, she is spiritual but has no affiliation with any church, certainly not Mormons. I have had very good friends who are Mormon and know a bit about the religion.

This should be interesting!

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 1:42pm

popcorn!!!

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Submitted by CLove on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 2:24pm

Do you have a good relationship to SD? If so I would warn her ahead of time!!!

I once told Munchkin SD14 that over my cold, stiff, dead body would she ever be a step mother.

Then a month ago, when we were haing a disagreement about step parenting, I wished her to be a step parent (year, almost like a curse!)

But if she is a jerk to you then belly up to the bar, pour a cocktail and wait for the theatrics!

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Submitted by notsobad on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 10:04pm

I have an ok relationship with SD, we've had a couple of problems in the last few years, all to do with BM and SD defending her.

I would actually love to warn her but that would start up the issues that we already have. Right now, if I were to warn her it would be seen as a shot at BM and SD would get increadibly defensive.

My stepkids aren't much of a problem. They're adults, have never lived with us, are not entitled and have launched. The difficulties are with BM and how they always defer to, defend and must protect her. BM has a lot of narcissistic personality traits and is very insecure. SD is constantly defending her.

I think it's going to be eye opening for SD. I don't wish her any pain but . . .

I hope his ex is like BM, that SD sees the insecurity, the using of her children to get what she wants, what's best for her not the kids as she keeps professing. That SD realizes that I never wanted to be her mother, just her friend but her BM made that impossible. I also hope she understands better why DH stood by me and choose me when push came to shove.