"father is responsible for all Saturday drop offs and mother will be responsible for all Sunday drop offs unless otherwise agreed to by both parties in advance."
Should you also specify who is going to deliver her or do the pick ups from BF house EOW to BM house?
The contract looks good to me and she would be foolish not to sign it. However, in my state the judge will not allow a parent to walk away from their responsibility for CS. Time and time again I have seen it sent back because it said no CS and the judge would not sign it.

We won custody from BM. Rather that is to say, she caved in 4pm on the night before our trial date (which only came after 4 PRE-trials over 9 months. They started out with shared (joint.)So, I have a little experience here.

I know laws vary from state to state. I think it's good you have the things you want in mind going in, but I believe all you should do in the beginning is file for modify/change current custody. For instance since ours was shared parenting to start, we filed a request to modify/terminate the shared parenting agreement. We also asked for a GAL to be appointed for SD, and a psych evaluation for BM, volunteering to take one ourselves as well.

That's basically all that initial filing said.

Then began the long arduous process of GAL interviews, pre-trial after pre-trial, court ordered high conflict parent coordination (fancy term for mediation for people who can't collaborate) etc.

Your SD will have to be strong enough to tell the GAL (and a counselor wouldn't hurt) what is going on and where she would like to be.

We never got into the nitty gritty of what we wanted or how the terms were to work. I think that only happens in initial custody hearings if the parties can't agree from the beginning.

Even when it was obvious we would win, the psychologist asked SD what her ideal visitation schedule was, and the psychologist discussed this with the GAL, who also talked with SD to confirm her wishes. The GALs recommendations were what BM agreed to, the court blessed and if we would have challenged that the whole thing could have fallen through.

It took forever. And I have to caution you since your DH doesn't have shared/joint custody, it's a lot harder to tip the scale. How our attorney put it, was that we were in a much better position trying to go from shared to full. We only had to prove that we were better able to serve SD's best interests. If we were NCPs, we would have to prove BM unfit, which is a lot more scale to tip.

You must above all else remember this is a very slow, tedious process. I often feel the court just drags its own feet until the parties agree, change their minds, or run out of money.

So... DOCUMENT everything. Keep tons of notes. When talking with to a GAL or anyone associated with the case, make sure you are always the rational side, always cooperate with all the hoops the court makes you jump through. Allow BM to be the one who refuses to cooperate. And if you are putting anything in writing, continue to do like you did above. Make several drafts, vent it all out in the first, and each additional draft make it less emotional until finally your perspective is gone from it, and you are left with facts only. Then ask one of us to read it again!!! before you send it.

GOODLUCK!!!!

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But our lawyer was pretty adamant that it be included. And after all was said and done I'm glad he did. This woman will likely put up a stink regardless of CS, as it seems she is just about maintaining control over SD and keeping her as her own personal servant. So I would not even mention it, and let the courts bring it up later as it is necessary to address. But yes, in our initial filing, our attorney added that DH was requesting a change in CS, whatever amount he would be due per the court's decision on custody. Then we didn't mention money ever again to anyone- GAL, or psychologist.

BUT Boy BM sure did. She told everyone repeatedly that DH was just trying to get out of paying her CS. But because we never mentioned it past the initial filing, and only then as a sort of side note, BM's fixation on bringing it up only further illustrated that she was the one who didn't want to pay toward the upbringing of her child.

Keep us posted!

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~Sita Tara Mantra

For the drop-off section I would notify that each party is responsible to get the child to their location. That way BM will have to make the effort to pick SD up. At the girls age she can be left alone for the WE and BM will not have to plan to get SD and spend time with her if your DH just drops SD off.

The agreement looks great otherwise.

As for CS, the Judge may not allow a $0.00 CS level so be ready for the Judge to potentially throw a wrench in as far as CS is concerned.

Just my thoughts of course.

Best regards,

as i read ur IP i was going to suggest that. usually, the parent starting visitation is responsible for transportation and it makes sense for a number of reasons.
if shes late getting her, she loses time instead of issues arising bc maybe FH is stuck in traffic or whatever. and like u said, if she decides not to exercise, which no doubt this LOSER will, then FH doesnt run the risk of dropping SD off, no one being home, having to drive back to drop her off w u and being late for work. PLUS, i dont care if BM lives NEXT door to where FH works, dont do any favors for her! u are not here to make HER life easier!!

i would still put in about bdays...BM may not care to have SD on hers, but FH probably would and so this makes it nice. i like ur holiday schedule--BASIC AND ROTATING. very important imo. i dont see any need to rotate holidays like MLK day and other bank holidays that alot of times are built in.

i think sita may be rite about the motion to modify, but i think when u file that motion, u can just put all of this in as what u want the modification to be. if BM agrees, then i think its done BUT if not, THEN u will go thru the steps sita listed above. u will have to put in the reason for the mod, and in this case, neglect and abuse may warrant ALOT more than the judge just signing off. in our case, BM filed a motion to modify based on claiming abuse. DH answered refuting EVERY claim she had at which point her lawyer suggested mediation. once the abuse claim is made they will not just throw anything out.

so, as others said above, its likely the judge wont allow for no CS. CS is an OBLIGATION and its separate from visitation. i know what u are trying to do, i just dont know if it can be done so easily.

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~the late great George Carlin

but I will add that you should not assume anything to be understood....spell everything out...that way there are no loop holes for her butt to jump through.