So the week with SD12 was going very well. I stayed busy doing my own thing and left her to her dad. She would come and find me and ask me ten million questions. But for the most part all the caretaking was left to her dad. Then the weekend came and I wanted to scream!! This is usually when I have to say stuff or do things for her. So it was hard to keep quiet. SD12 is getting better but she has a way to go to get over the entitlement. This weekend she seemed to have reverted back to when BF was super guilty parent. Especially since any progress that gets made at our house gets undone at her BM's house. Whats worse is that its not like BM caters to her every whim either. She just instills in SD12 that her father should cater to her every minute and buy her whatever she wants etc.,etc.

So I get home from work on Sat. and she is on Skype with her older sister. SD21 that lives in another state. I can hear SD21 saying they left you alone?? OMG I can't beleive they did that are you ok?? Now BF's work place is about 3 mins away from our house. She was asleep when I left. Usually I would have taken her with me but not this weekend. I heard her telling her sister she woke up at 10am and I came home at noon so poor little precious was alone for 2 hours to entertain herself Oh the horror!!! Irritated me but oh well disengage right }:) I had some projects for clients to finish up so I went to my studio/craft room and holed up in there for an hour or so till BF got home. She usually loves to go downstairs with me and tries to help. I wasn't in the mood because of a deadline so I shut the door. That is the clue to leave me alone.

Then I had to run to the grocery store and I wanted to go alone she loves to go and school me on everything that I should buy or her mom used to buy blah blah blah. Well I couldn't make a clean getaway and she tagged along. I shut her down immediately because I didnt want to hear her crap about what I should buy. She ended up being very pleasant and we had a nice time.

So then we get home and she gets on the computer and we are talking its maybe 20 feet to the kitchen. BF and I were in the living room talking and she shouts over to us Dad get me some orange juice. Seriously she expected him to get up and serve her like a little princess. He ignored her then she is all giggly and cutsey (so she thinks) Daddy please I don't want to get up. I seriously expected him to hop up and do it but he simply said No get it yourself. She moans and groans and gets up all pouty to do it herself.

Then later on she tries to get out of going to bed at bedtime. On school nights her bedtime is 9pm. So around 8 or so BF has to remind her to get in the shower every night. She starts whining about it and he says no very firmly and she gets up and gets her shower. Then comes out and its 8:45 we are watching a show we had DVR'd so in 15 mins he tells her bedtime get to your room. She immediately pipes up and says No the show isn't over yet. Then the whining again I want to watch it it's not over yet and on and on. He just stood up and stared at her untill she got up and stomped in her room LOL. He is finally stepping up and being a parent and not letting her run the show!!

I kept quiet the whole time and when she went to bed BF said to me I see your point on giving in to her all the time. Thank you for helping me see that. I was shocked but happy. I do love SD and I want her to have a good life. I don't want her to end up like her BM and older sisters. So it looks like BF may be on track finally I hope the momentum stays strong and he keeps up with this parenting.