BM saying our gifts are from her
Not trying to blog hog. I just told SS10 to leave his ipad inside if he is going outside and he says " I just want to show my friend__ that my mom got me an ipad like his".I just told him mabey later. I am pissed DH and I got him that for christmas and she said it was from her.
Should I even make this an issue or just let SS keep thinking he got it from BM?
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Not sure of the back story
Not sure of the back story here, but I don't see what's wrong with letting SS know that you and DH got him the ipad. It's the truth.
I would have corrected him on
I would have corrected him on the spot. But SS, your dad and I got you that iPad.
Mil did that to me one year. The skids flew up and surprised her for Xmas one year. We sent all their gifts up with them. I had gotten them each a Xmas blanket. SD came back attached to that blanket. I didn't think much of it, until it was time to pack them away with the Xmas decorations (I had intended for them to be special blankets just for around the holidays) well, SD was in tears in her room. Crying hysterically. I finally get her to talk to me and she goes into this whole diatribe of how special that blanket is because her grandma pi led it out special for her and wanted her to have it and I was just taking it from her.....on and on and on. So I told her. SD, abuela did not get you that blanket, I did. Well, the tears stopped instantly and she no longer gave two shits about the silly blanket.
Now, whether mil told her the blanket was from her or if SD just made up this whole story in her head(which she's done in the past) I don't know. But I am not going to ignore untruths. I'd have corrected her even if it was the other way....if I was getting credit for something someone else bought.
That's the key question. Did
That's the key question. Did bm expressly say that it was from her.....were all the gifts under the tree and he didn't read the tag and assumed it was from bm..... Did bm know he was under this impressive n and fail to correct it, or did she not know......is SS being a shit on purpose and refusing to give dad credit....
I correct SD when she thought
I correct SD when she thought BM got her a bookbag with her name on it. I quickly told her grandma got it for her, because she did. BM likes for us and my MIL to send her money so she can buy stuff & say it's from her. Instead we just buy the items and usually give them to her in person. MIL made the mistake of shipping the gift directly & look what happened?
It's not a big deal, but she teaches SD that the only way people show love is by buying things - which she can't afford to do - then she takes credit for gifts from others. I let her know that you can love someone without showering them with gifts, BUT it is wrong to claim gifts that you didn't buy.
I told SS10 the truth. He
I told SS10 the truth. He said on christmas he got sneakers and an ipad (that came from DH) and a gift card that came from BM. We put a not on the gifts from: dad and newbie with love. But SS said the gifts said from:mommy. so BM took our tags off and wrote her name or unwrapped our gifts and re-wrapped it and put her name. SS got mad that we told him the truth and won't believe it but if he calls BM later and asks her its going to be a shit storm. uggggggg SMH.
You did the right thing. She
You did the right thing. She can't really say anything because she was the one hiding the truth not you. If she calls acting crazy just ignore it, use it as proof that she's lying, & move on. SS will learn the truth one day.