I had my neighbor come to me this afternoon and inform me that 3 of my SS18's friends were in our backyard today smoking a joint. These kids are 15..my SS is 18. He was in our basement - which has a sliding door that goes out to the backyard - playing video games with another loser friend. My neighbor saw what they were doing and saw all 3 toke on this joint.

He came and told me about it..I went to DH immediately and he went to his son. My DH and I both were gone during this time. SS claims he saw nothing.

SS also says they 'may' have been smoking a cigarette, but my neighbor said under no uncertain terms was it NOT a cigarette. We decided these 3 people were not to be at our home anymore.

Fast forward to later...one of these girls walks right past me and walks right into our basement like she owns it. She lives next door to us so she's close. She's the 15 year old that my 18yo grown SS hangs out with..nice.

I immediately called SS outside and asked him who she thought she was and did he not tell her she was not welcome anymore. He said "Oh..Dad said she just wasn't allowed to sit in our chairs here."

I looked at him like he was insane..she can roam free around our house and property...but she just can't sit in our lawn chairs???

Alright.

So back I go to DH..he instantly swings into the "I can't seem to remember what happened" mode. I ream him over this girl being a MINOR in OUR backyard with her buddies - smoking a doobie and being seen. He then tells me he 'thought' I had said I wasn't sure if it was a cigarette or not. That this girl told SS it was a cigarette - so I guess my DH and SS were being gentlemen and giving the pothead the benefit of the doubt.

I was livid..I LOUDLY told him it was a joint..nothing was more sure in my conversation. NOTHING.

I told him that HIS son was a grown man..an adult. WE WERE GONE while this happened..his son would be responsible for these kids getting caught if they had..did he not think of that? While he was sitting there like some lazy ass playing video games 3 minors were in our backyard smoking a joint.

Who did he think would take responsibility? Him? Me?? HIS SON is responsible for the people he brings over here..end of story.

He says..."Well I don't want to put it like that to him...uhhh..might hurt his feelings."

So..while my DH and I were gone, 3 minors were sitting in our backyard..in the open..smoking a doobie. And my SS - who is a grown man - was sitting 40 foot from them playing video games and never said a word. Nor does my DH feel my SS is responsible because he SAYS he didn't know.

And now wants to say since the girl is saying it's a cigarette..then my neighbor has to be mistaken. I guess what she says is the truth. We do NOT know her..nor the 2 other kids with her.

Does anyone else see my point here or am I the crazy one??