^ This, and WELL SAID snickers....

OP- While this post serves as great insight into the mind of a bitter, spoiled, conniving step daughter, this is a site for step PARENTS. Methinks your blog would be more appropriate someplace else.

I dont understand why everyone here is taking it so personal... you cant always generalize... everyone makes different experiences.
And he/she is just telling his/her story. There are no further details... so i am asking myself where do you get all those weird ideas from??
Just because you made does experiences?? Or just because you know how you are.... and you instead of speaking for your self you generalize?
you dont even know if this person really exist! Gush! How can you get so enraged?
Read and make your own opinion... think about what is said... but dont judge, cause you dont know who is sitting behind all this!

I got a good laugh when I read it eariler. I think it's a spoof of what is posted here day in and day out~ kind of like The Onion. Instead of lampooning folks in office, this person is targeting people here. Satire LOL

I read your post and read it again. It seems to me you really dont even know this woman as you were away at boarding school. So her boobs pop out..so what, she's less than affectionate..so what..she's sick all the time..so what that's her business.

I do have to say it seems to upset you that your dad is happy and that's something you will have to just accept or not. Only you can make that decision.

It's unfortunate that many kids want there parents to choose between them and there spouse..that's just not right...

If it makes it easier just make it a point to have one on one time with your dad..Have specific day of the week or month that you and him go out and have dinner or go to a movie, bowling or something that you both enjoy. You do not have to have a relationship with SM if you do not want to....

Forget all the nonsense as life is too short..

Z

But you are saying that the children are the ones who have to change, and have to think about their actions. Even when the mistakes are probably results from the adults actions. Which should be taking the responsibility and care for their children, otherwise i dont see the point of getting children.
YOu got the Child! SO you take the responsibility for your actions!

"Cruella always forces herself into the point of attention. She is always "sick" and thats why she cant go work regularly or why she couldnt enjoy her holiday. She has got massive boobs which always have to be presented, even when they are already hanging so far out that you can see her nippels (excuse my form of expression). I think that my Dad is still together with her because he digged himself to deep into this disaster and now he doesnt really know how to get out of it. But if he doesnt make decision a soon, I am not sure how long I will be able to stand this spectacle."
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Funny...the way you describe Cruella brings a freakishly accurate mental picture of the BM in my situation, all the way from having to be the focus of attention, to always being "sick", & the nipples trying to bust out of her shirt.

Regardless of why YOU think your dad is with her, it's HIS CHOICE to be with her. He's a big boy. If he wants to get out of it, he will find the way. He doesn't need your help.

If you can't stand the spectacle, there's an easy fix. DON'T.LOOK.

It really is that easy. Live your life for you, & let him live his life for him. He's a grown up. He doesn't need your permission to be with this woman. If he wants your advice or opinion, he'll ask.

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I meant having children. so what about the responsability there, which the father has amongst the op?

I found this page by coincidence. So i am not the same person to answer your question, but i am in a similar situation. And can understand the op well for writing something like that. I feel the same about my stepmother and i can tell you, its not that i dont want it to be better. We both are just to different. And she makes it difficult for me to have a good relationship with my father.

OP- if you actually passed an IB course schedule at a boarding school you were a victim of No Child Left Behind: passed through the course(s) so as to not hurt your feelings (or lose the check from your parents) by failing you.

Your spelling, grammer, capitolization, sentence structure, paragraph structure and punctuation all are of the caliber of an 8th grade student, an 'average' 8th grade student.

Truth time:

Your father and stepmothers relationship is none of your business. What is your business is to ensure that your relationships with your father and step mother are good. That means getting along, understanding that others do not have to live up to your expectations and living by the rules of their house so long as you are under that roof. And most importantly: respecting both of the adults that tolerate you living under that roof.

Welcome to the real world. It is not all about you. You are one small cog in the giant machine of life.

Well, I can tell you what she does... she is always interfering my conversations with my dad. I dont see my dad very often as he works a lot. And when we have got a minute she doesnt leave us our time. Father & daughter time goes completely under. There is lack of communication, which I find very sad. And really we have done different things to try and solve this... but as said... she is always interfering... if we go out for dinner... long planned just us two... she finds a way to either be there also or to make my dad jump up and go to see whats wrong with her...
She leaves our house in a mess... and I am the one cleaning after her dirt.She buys expensive things which she would never be able to afford by herself.
I could keep on writing, but I hope you see my point!
In my opinion I dont think that all sm are bad...but not all of them are good. And I believe that in order to live in harmony sm and child should get along with eachother... otherwise is just painful for everyone.

I do think this is sad. But I think it is a good example of what our skids think of us. I had a skid from my first marriage who always thought I was a "gold digger"-just with her dad for money. Never mind that I made more money than he did. She also thought it was "MY JOB" to take care of the house-all of it including whatever mess she made. Again never mind that I had my own job. She actually wrote that to me in a letter once-"you are married now you are supposed to do all the housework" this was because we asked her (who was 14-almost 15 years old) to do the dishes twice a week as a chore. She thought I was too young for her father. She thought all sorts of bizarre things. I never knew where it came from at the time as I was very young in that marriage-but I do see it now as a common thread with skids.

My ss13 now has been my ss since age 1-so I think he grasps that I can make whatever financial decisions I want, do what I want with my house, etc-BUT he thinks it is ok to treat me like shit because he does not want his dad with me. Because he prefers all his dad's attention. Therefore he is justified in treating me like crap. What he cant grasp is taht he is entering MY home and he HAS to listen to me-he cant fathom why he should have to do that. He also told me recently that he has treated me and my children like shit because he was upset that his dad was deployed to Iraq. Now, dont misunderstand this was not an apology-he wasnt saying, 'hey, I'm sorry I did that-it wasnt right"-he was saying he was upset so that he had every right to treat us all like crap. It did not compute when I pointed out to him that MY children were also equally upset that their dad left as was I that my husband had left yet none of us took that out on him. I believe there is something about these COD's that make them so incredibly selfish and unable to think from anyone else's perspective.

These posters are NOT thinking of their fathers or their happiness at all-they are certainly not thinking of the stepmoms or any children brought into the mix-but just THEM. I dont want my dad with her because I dont like her smile, her boobs, the fact that she wants to go out to dinner with my dad, the fact that she spends money, or doesnt pick up after me the way I think she should.

Ewe OP... I'm assuming we aren't too far apart in age. GROW UP!!!! YOU don't have any control over who your dad picks!!! You sound like a spoiled little brat... wait... daddy sent you to boarding school and must get you whatever you want.
You aren't even home to know his wife. Get over it!!!
Why can't you just be happy for him???
Guess what OP... I'm a SD too... and I've learned real quick ppl aren't perfect and just because they don't think like me doesn't make them wrong!!!!
This woman isn't your mother so you automatically chastise her. It seems the minute you got HOME THAT is when trouble started... so you see, things are peaceful until YOU get home.
I can't understand why you wouldn't want a happy peaceful home instead of a disruptive one.
I had come to terms with the fact that, ok dad, this woman isn't mom but ya'll aren't going to get back together again. I would rather there be dad's happy family and mom's happy family than any broken family.
Honestly OP... you haven't given any evidence to backup your claims that your SM is evil.

@ Mulleimer1 Guess what? You're not the only pebble on the beach. Your Dad has a right to a relationship. So stop being selfish and jealous. Its not all about you!

I'm like a lot of the other posters on here. I have two stepkids, and I am an adult SD too.

You don't give a lot of information on what exactly your SM has done to you. Is she mean or nasty to you?

Usually, it takes more than one person to make a situation with others involved unpleasant. It's easy to blame the stepmother as she is not blood related. It's easy to blame her because she represents the fact that your bioparents won't be getting back together again. But it might be beneficial for you to look inside yourself and ask yourself what you and your father contributed to the situation.

My stepmother has said and done a lot of hurtful things to me. She bashed my mom to me and made it known that she didn't like me. However, I place a lot of the blame for that on my Dad too. He didn't do much when she did those things.

In the end, I realized I had to forgive both of them. I have a great relationship with my dad. Is my stepmother my cup of tea? No. But when we're around each other, or when I call my dad and she answers the phone, I can be cordial to her. Therapy has been extremely helpful to me in processing my experiences with my stepmother and getting to the root of problems I've experienced in life. You might want to consider seeking some for yourself, and maybe asking your Dad and/or SM to join you every now and then to work out past issues and find ways to get along better.

How old are you? If you're a teen, it might be a good idea to start thinking about what you want to do after high school and begin planning accordingly so you can have a place of your own. The internet is ripe with information and can provide you with some good sites on how you can move forward in life and start saving up money to do so.