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Submitted by Mousie1972 on Mon, 01/16/2012 - 12:55pm

So after all is said and done with court, it appears that my DH will pay a little more and she got away with having their 2 oldest lie on the stand. They are completely money hungry and have no idea how much they have hurt him with their lies. He also has to pay $15,000 for each child's college education and for his son's private school education which he disagreed with as SS11 is just lazy and BM is too lazy to work with him. On top of everything else, SD18 will be getting married to her high school sweetheart and BM informed DH that her father will be walking her down the aisle not him.

Nothing seems to have improved. I resent the kids even more now. We really only have SD10 and SS11 over but even that proves to just be annoying (SD10 always wants to go to Starbucks and be entertained she also told him that if she can't bring her friends over on our weekends that she's not coming. Stay home then, I don't want her bratty friends over anymore than I want her there. All SS11 wants to do is eat candy and lay around our den watching cartoons. I've completely detached myself during their weekends and am seriously thinking about leaving. I don't want to do it anymore. Added to everything else, DH gets defensive if I say anything, but it's my house too and I'm tired of removing myself from MY home. Please help before I do something drastic. Right now I hate my life and I'm going through a lot of health issues that are just compounding everything.

I love my DH, but I want to be happy too. I feel like a terrible person and it's only on here that I can be completely honest with my feelings.

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Submitted by Patsy on Mon, 01/16/2012 - 1:26pm

You are not a terrible person! It is only normal that this gets to you like it does. This sounds harsh but hide it. I mean burry it so deep for the time being that no one has a clue how you feel about all of this. We have all let our children bio or step do this to us before. You aren't the problem it is how your husband and their mother deal with it. I have been to that line before with my husband and you better bet I let him know I was serious about it. I don't know your history and I don't want to prentend I do. I just want you to know I have been there and the only solution for me was to tell him that his buisness with his daughter is his and I stuck to that for years until he started to really feels how it was to handle things like this on his own. It was hard to do but he now has a lot more respect for me and I always kept a good relationship with my SD through all of this. I just always felt that my SD is the way she is because of her parents not because she didn't like me.