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Submitted by motherof2 on Thu, 10/14/2010 - 11:34am

i am furious with my FSD12 and FSS10 who miss life with just daddy and want more alone time without me and my kids. They were alone with daddy for 5 years, and we are together almost 3. I thought they would come around but it is getting worse. The do not want to play with my kids, they want to either be alone or sit with daddy. The have expressed wanting cuddle time constantly and BM had talked to DH about different ways they can be alone.

I am such a sucker!!!

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Submitted by motherof2 on Thu, 10/14/2010 - 10:57am

Getting married in two weeks. Decided 2 weeks ago to try and bury the hatchets with BM...everything went well. We agreed to be just 2 moms and not enemies. She was texting me, came over for coffee when she picked up the kids and life was good. Yesterday, FDH gets a letter forwarded to him by his lawyer from hers :jawdrop:

Went for a drink with BM

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Submitted by motherof2 on Thu, 09/30/2010 - 10:30pm

It actually went really well. We were there for 2 and a half hours. We are both sick of the hard feelings and drama. We did talk about FDH, but only to how she was happy he is not alone, and out of all the GF's he had, she is so excited he is with me. She was relieved to know that I am ok they can still be civil for the kids and their sake. The one thing they always prided themselves with was their good relationship. She didn't know where we went wrong but wants to put it in the past and start new, as do I.

You wont believe this one

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Submitted by motherof2 on Thu, 09/30/2010 - 12:20pm

:jawdrop: :jawdrop: So I email BM out of sheer desperation for a dramaless life. I let her know that me and my ex are best of friends and work well with the kids. Can we just put all this anger behind us for the kids sake and get along. Lets go against all odds and go for coffee. Well,I just got a response back of screw the coffee..how about some martinis, call me. So I did..she said she couldnt take the stress either, and would love to see this work. She said she is happy that her ex found someone and is happy and doesn't want all this crap between us going on either.

Wrote a can we start fresh email to BM

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Submitted by motherof2 on Thu, 09/30/2010 - 9:08am

SOOOO....I know most of you will say, r u crazy??? I wrote an email to her yesterday requesting that we can start new for the kids sake. I said that me and my ex get along great and it makes it easier for my kids and us. I explained that I am not trying to replace her, and that her kids love her, but I would like to be someone else in there life that loves them. THE BITCH NEVER RESPONDED!!! I am not a home wrecker, she was remarried for 2 years before I met me FDH. So what is her problem? Do I send anything else or blow this in a balloon and let it go? :?

Grass isn't always greener

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Submitted by motherof2 on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 12:23pm

The grass isn't always greener on the otherside! I left a 18 year marriage because of the verbal abuse my son and I delt with when DH didn't get his way, and the fact that we lived with his mom for 18 years :sick: Anyway, now I have an amazing relationship with someone I went to high school with, and we r getting married in 1 month.

Back CS question

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Submitted by motherof2 on Wed, 09/29/2010 - 9:23am

My fiance and I are getting married in a month. BM hates me for no reason and has been talking bad about me to future SKids. To the point where FSD asks me why her mom hates me, she doesn't even know me??? I explained that she hates my role in her life and it really has nothing to do with me as a person. I feel really bad for the kids, because it seems like they like me, but they often do not involve me in their conversations with FDH, they are very private, but polite.

I AM GETTING MARRIED ON 10/30/10 AND I AM MISERABLE... :sick:

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Submitted by motherof2 on Tue, 09/28/2010 - 3:49pm

I am marrying the most wonderful man in the world, in a month and we are both sick. Just a little history...I was not looking for a relationship when this man entered my life. I was newly seperated and did everything I could not to have a new relationship. However, there was no way I was going to give him up. He helped me during the most difficult time of my life and I don't know what I would have done without him. He is wonderful with my kids and they love him. Here is the problem...