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i'm having a really really bad, rejected, sad, self pitying day today,
and i feel like no one on here even responds to my posts anymore.
thanks to those who have but i think im done... i just dont have anything left in me to keep up with anything but my kids.
bye
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I am an opinionated...
lil' brat sometimes. So I have to say this....I'm sorry if this post hurts your feelings whatsoever but I'm gonna put it out there because, I've walked in your shoes so I'll reserve the right. (That and you are on a public forum)
Quit being paranoid. Just because people don't post a response doesn't mean that they don't care. Maybe they just don't know how to help. I'm a BM and a SM and your last post about taxes - you sounded like my skids BM and I just don't have anything to say to that. HOWEVER your daycare post, I did have something to say.
Sometimes I post a blog and NOONE whatsoever posts a response. Who cares? I got it off my chest and I feel better. Maybe I helped someone else by just knowing how THEY feel. I don't need the validation. But when you're just venting...sometimes people just need to do just that all by themselves.
"i'm having a really really bad, rejected, sad, self pitying day today,"
Maybe if you start being accountable, I'd be more inclined to offer a word of advice. I'm here to tell you that I think life usually gets better. What I won't do is sit here and feel sorry for you. When you're ready to start making your life better instead of blaming your ex husband, your FH's ex-wife, or whoever for all that's wrong in your life....hey I'm there for you. I got a whole slew of ideas for self preservation and mood lifting.
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
Venting
Colorado Girl, I like your comments. I'm new and what I like most that as a blog, it's like a diary. I need to write to get the feelings out.
I know there are days when I just need to vent and then there are days when we want someone to relate.
Love this site.
taking the easy way
this forum has been a life line and although not every one responds to my post I do feel better about getting off my chest (like CG) but also I just like to read posts and to learn from them if I can ..lord knows I like my point to be heard but I do not always have an opinion about something cuz more than likely I can not relate or offer any good points or advice.
advoidance is the easy way...facing up and stepping up is hard!
BULLSHIT
um
excuse me lady, I was very accountable by saying that I am having a bad day today, and I said I DO NOT HAVE TIME TO KEEP UP WITH THIS. It was nice at first, but I do not have any room in my life for more, which was said nicely, and thanks was given.
and excuse me again, but I am a birth mother. My EX husband DOES NOTHING for his children at all, except make them, and then leave them for new ones dear. You have no idea. I am also a step mother and I have to deal with a birth mother everyday, and I keep my comments to myself, or to my FH, not to HER because their former life is not mine to intrude upon with my opinions about how she should raise her daughter. DO NOT DARE TELL ME I NEED TO MAKE MY LIFE BETTER. I WORK MY ASS OFF FOR MY CHILDREN, MY STEPDAUGHTER, and my former husband who used my paycheck to pay for a hotel room to f*** his girlfriend while i was giving birth deserves NO respect from me, so you can take your ignorant post and stick it where the sun does not shine sweetheart. POINT PROVEN WHY I DONT HAVE TIME FOR ANY OF THIS. LIKE I NEEDED ONE MORE THING TO SET ME OVER THE EDGE. WHY DONT YOU CALL MY HOUSE AND EXPLAIN TO MY DAUGHTER WHY HER FATHER STRAIGHT OUT TELLS HER HES NOT COMING TO SEE HER BECAUSE HES TOO BUSY OR BECAUSE HES SICK AND THEN COME TO FIND OUT LATER HE WAS AT A CONCERT OR SPENT HIS MONEY ON NEW SOUND STUDIO EQUIPMENT SO THERE WAS NO FOOD IN THE HOUSE FOR HER? OR ABOUT HOW HE LET HER EYES DRIP WITH GREEN PUS FOR 2 DAYS DURING HIS VISITATION BECAUSE HE WANTED ME TO BE THE ONE TO PAY FOR THE MEDICATION EVEN THOUGH HE IS FIGHTING FOR JOINT CUSTODY.
GET OFF YOUR HIGH HORSE, YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT.
I NEVER INTERFERE WITH MY EX OR HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND OR THE WAY THEY PARENT MY CHILDREN UNLESS THEY ARE IN HARMS WAY, SUCH AS HER NEEDING TO GO TO THE DOCTOR AND NOT BEING TAKEN. THEY LIVE THEIR LIFE AND I LIVE MINE AND YOU ARE A DISGUSTING PERSON FOR TALKING TO ME LIKE THAT WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING ANYTHING ABOUT ME OR MY LIFE. I DONT BLAME ANYONE FOR ANYTHING. EVERYTHING I HAVE I HAVE WORKED FOR IT AND ACHIEVED IT ON MY OWN, WITH NO HELP!!!!!!!!! YOU WANT TO JUDGE ME... HERES ONE FOR YOU.. NOT ONLY DO I TAKE CARE OF MY OWN CHILDREN BUT I PAY MY FH'S CHILD SUPPORT FOR HIM WHILE HES OUT OF WORK TO MAKE SURE THE SD IS TAKEN CARE OF... AND I NEVER ONCE MENTIONED IT TO BM.... FEEL SORRY FOR ME MY ASS... ALL I SAID WAS I WAS HAVING A BAD DAY TODAY ..... NO ONE REALLY RESPONDS TO ANYTHING AND I DONT HAVE TIME TO CHECK AND SEE IF THEY DID, THANKS FOR THE ONES WHO DID, BYE.... SORRY IF THAT FREAKING OFFENDED YOU .... AS FOR MY TAXES.... I SOUND LIKE YOUR BM? WELL IF HER CASE IS THE SAME AS MINE THEN SHE IS F'EN RIGHT. MY KIDS DONT LIVE WITH HIM, THEY NEVER SEE HIM, HE PAYS ME 40 DOLLARS A WEEK FOR 2 CHILDREN IF IM LUCKY, I DO THE DRIVING, I PAY FOR EVERY SINGLE TINY DETAIL OF THEIR LIVES, HE WANTS MY TAXES TO PAY FOR BACK CHILD SUPPORT FOR OTHER CHILDREN.. DO YOU UNDERSTAND THAT?! OTHER CHILDREN... AND THAT IS OK TO YOU?
SCREW YOU. JUDGE YOURSELF. IM SURE THE LOG IN YOUR EYE NEEDS SOME ATTENTION TOO.
I HOPE KARMA GETS YOU. GOOD RIDDANCE TO THIS BULLSHIT.
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
My sincerest apologies...
Didn't mean to set you off. For what it's worth, I told you that I've walked in your shoes. My oldest son's father has absolutely nothing to do with him and I know exactly what's it's like to have to explain that very thing. I don't even get the $40 a week and he has four "other children" that he pays every bit of attention to. He uses "my" child support money for those other children. I know how you feel. I've worked two jobs in my day just to pay rent.
Sometimes we need a swift kick in the ass telling us that hey, life isn't as bad as you make it out to be. I commend you on all that you do, I only responded because I mistook your post as a plea for help and I only explained to you how I personally could help you.
Best of luck to you and I am truly sorry that you took my post to heart the way you did. I just thought that if you took a look in the mirror and and made the conscience decision to perservere rather than dwell...you would feel better. That's all. My intentions were just to bring you up not put you down. I am so very sorry.
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
if....
you had said
"I just thought that if you took a look in the mirror and and made the conscience decision to perservere rather than dwell...you would feel better."
something like that ... rather than
stop blaming you ex, your FH's ex, and everyone else in your life for your problems,..... i dont feel sorry for you... do something to make your life better instead of crying about it... etc and so on..
(paraphrased)
I would have taken it as advice instead of oh youre just a crazy BM who has nothing better to do than attack poor ex husband. Cuz that's how it came off ....
doesnt matter. thanks for the apology but i dont need this.
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
Ahhh...but see...
you took all the negative things from my post...what about when I said I'd be there for you? or that I've walked in your shoes? or that we care?
Sweety, I've been through it all and here I am. Still kickin' trying to make MY life better. I just wanted to help you find your path. Sorry to see you go. You might have learned something here...
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
because after the other
because after the other comments the "im here for you with a slew of ideas" sounded sarcastic to me... like i have more things to say to your sorry ass if you like...
and if you had walked in my shoes then why would you tell me that I sound like your nightmare of a BM for venting? If you'd been through the same wouldnt that make you just like your BM too?
Maybe I took your reply the wrong way or maybe you should read it again and see if maybe next time someone is having a horrible day you might be able to soften your words? I don't even want to vent or say how I'm feeling now because I'll be afraid of being judged for being emotional or saying the wrong thing or feeling sorry for myself.
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
Could've softened the blow...
...you're right. Maybe then you would've had a better reaction.
I just called it as I saw it. You can read all my blogs and feel free to see that I too have anger and frustration and have had my very own pity party with only one invitaion....myself. You will also see that I am doing all I can to better my situation instead of dwelling on it. I have even been to the point of leaving my husband if that's what it took.
There's a saying.I forget exactly how it goes...but something along the lines of...when you're in the gutter there's no place to look but up.
Vent away and spew all you want. I usually would never post a comment if I can't relate. For example, I almost never post comments when people say they "hate" their step kids. I'm not passing judgement, I just don't understand it. I absolutely love my skids, but they are so very worthy of it. I only posted my comment because you posted that no one seems to be replying to your comments. I only explained to you why I wasn't and what you needed to do IF you actually wanted a response out of me.
Also, I am sorry that you are having a horrible day. I've had plenty of those in the past six months.
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
I havent been around here
I havent been around here much, so you would have no way of doing this, but every second of every minute of every day is spent trying to better my life and my childrens lives. I have a long rough hard road ahead of me, as do most of us.
I do it because there is nothing else I can do. I dont ask for anything from anyone, I just do what I have to do.
I probably reacted pretty harshly, but being kicked when your down.....
I dont understand hate for skids either.
heres a few facts about me...
my ex's first wife and her 3 kids are my best friends. it took us a year but we decided that we were going to make sure the kids were happy and healthy and well adjusted so we forged a friendship that has lasted and gone beyond what it was meant for in the first place. She is coming with me to my divorce hearing. Her kids mean as much to me as my own, I would give my life for any of them. Even when they are brats. Would I hate my kid for being insufferable? No. Never. Neither would I hate my skids.
My FH's SD... spoiled brat, honestly. Gets her way with everything. He treats her as if she can do no wrong. Do I hate her? hell no. I love her. Not only is she a brat but she's funny as hell and she's gorgeous and she's had a damned hard life so far. Not her fault her parents are not together. She is a child who needs to be taught by the adults in her life that it is ok to have a blended family and to love that family. You dont have to rebel against it or against SM/SF or whatever.
So I'm not that bad of a person, I try extremely hard. I just dont need anyone else telling me my best isnt good enough.
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
TO EVERYONE ELSE
if you took my comment to mean i was leaving BECAUSE no one reads my posts... i did not mean that....
i had a few friends here that i spoke to everyday who i no longer have time to talk to.
i am leaving this site because I have no time for it.... as i said.
sincere thanks to those i met who helped me out and i hope i gave some good advice to some of you too. well wishes to you all.... hopefully you dont get attacked while expressing that you are having a terrible day and be told you are like a crazy BM for wanting to keep what you work so hard for.
goodbye
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
And she really wonders why no one responds??
She'll likely ream my ass now too for responding!!
actually no..
actually no i wont... but id like to see how you respond when you work yourself to the bone everyday to take care of your family, your stepfamily, and your ex's family, never saying anything to anyone so you dont hurt anyones feelings... and then you come here where people are supposed to understand and are told something like that by someone who doesnt know you, didnt take the time to get to know you, and has no clue what shes talking about yet feels it necassary to tell you to stop blaming people for your life etc.... sorry, i blame no one for my life.. i blame them for their own lives and refuse to let them bring me down with them because of their own mistakes. if that makes me wrong, then ill live with being wrong.
There are a whole lot of hypocrits out there thats for sure.
matter of fact i just read something a BM posted about what a skanky slut whore her ex's new girlfriend was, and i posted that she should turn her anger away from SM, because its not her fault that ex husband was/is a prick, and the next poster told her to go ahead and let it out if she was mad at her ex.... be as mean as she wanted, cry scream kick punch do whatever until she felt better... then the second i do it in reference to my ex trying to squeeze me for money when he does nothing for his kids already... i get told i sound like her "nightmare" of a BM. No thank you. Like I said, before you point out the stick in my eye, get the log out of yours. Thanks again. For proving that you cant depend on people.. depend on yourself or face the ultimate disappointment. You are the only one who can do for you. Hmm, but I blame other people and cant take care of myself right?
Wishing you all the best ... and freedom from this kind of judgement.
The last thing a person with tears in their eyes needs to hear is the kind of crap i just heard from you two. thanks.
OUCH!
Meeeeeeoooooowwwwwwww!
Sorry to see you go Monica. Hope you find what it is that you're looking for. We'll still be here if you need us in the future.
Take care and be well,
MamaJenn24
And another thing
I have been an extremely emotional person my whole life, but have learned that your raw emotion is rarely met with what it needs to be productive and healthy. People can't handle emotion. I bottle it up. When I'm mad at someone, I don't say anything usually. A fight breaks out and then everyone is upset and nothing is solved anyways. If I'm sad, no one wants to listen to me cry, I don't have a lot of friends because like I said, people always disappoint you in the long run... I don't like people feeling sorry for me so not only do I keep it inside to avoid burdening anyone, I keep it inside so no one can tell me I'm weak. My emotions are always bottled up.
When I caught EXH cheating, I bottled it up, wouldn't let him see me cry.
When I caught him the second time, I bottled it up, actually laughed at them as I walked out the door with 2 year old and 2 month old daughters.
When FH wants me to understand all his problems from his past, but won't listen to mine, or gets angry at me for my past mistakes and hardships, I bottle it up and decide within myself to keep it to myself, deal with it myself, learn from it myself.
When BM calls and goes off on me and FH and calls me every name in the book and tries to get FH to go to her house for a little bit of something *winkwink* ... I bottle up how angry it makes me and say nothing to her, to spare SD from having a horrible family life between the 3 of us.
Etc. Etc. ETC.
So then I find this site, and it says "VENT, LET IT OUT.... TELL US HOW YOU FEEL"
And very first time I'm having a bad day, and need nothing more than someone to tell me its going to be ok, I feel slammed. Ashamed, pitied, all the things I dont want to feel. Now I'm choking down tears and am probably going to be looked at as weak for that too.
So maybe now you understand? I am alone, and I'm scared and everyone wants a piece of me but no one wants to give me a piece of themself.
Now I'm mad at you for making me cry.
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
Sometimes...
falling down isn't falling down if you don't cry. (Alicia Keys)
I didn't mean to make you cry. I liked this post. I think I like this Monica who can tell me how she feels in such a heartfelt way.
I wasn't trying to kick you while you were down, I was trying to give you a swift kick and say "get up"...
Hey....Monica, it's going to be okay.....
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
Thank you ... and I
Thank you ... and I apologize to you for snapping like that. I don't know you either and judged you for judging me. (or what I thought was you judging me) so I'm as much at fault as you are for not thinking before I posted.
Crying has always been a weakness in my family. I'm just now learning how to do it without hating myself.
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
:) All is good...
I cry all the time. Commercials, movies, and lately looking in the mirror at my fat ass. Then I'm able to laugh at myself.
Laughter through tears is my favorite emotion....
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
when I cry I'm told to stop
when I cry I'm told to stop "crying like a sissy" or something like that. I so don't want to make you (any of you) my therapists and I'm not looking for a sympathy cookie so I'll stop there... I know crying can be a good thing, I just dont know how to do it without feeling like I totally failed or having the people around me see me as the weak link.
And one more time, I'm truly sorry you all had to witness me freaking out. I'm really not a violent nutcase. I just play one on the internet.
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
But we're cheaper...
than therapy. Plus some of us think we know it all....
As far as freakin' out. You ain't got sh*t on my skids BM. So no harm done.
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass...It's about learning to dance in the rain."
I try and read
everyone's posts but the past couple weeks have been crappy ones...sometimes I don't know how to respond, or I can't relate to what's going on with the person. I'm terrible at giving advice...I'm sorry your having a bad day..and I know how you feel about giving and giving and noone give back to you in return..I know how it is to be a BM and have an ex who doesn't do SHIT for your children, and I know all about the skids and BM bullcrap too...but I don't even know how to deal with this crap myself let alone give someone else advice on how to deal with it...if you ever need to vent or b*tch about your issues you can private message me..I do know how it feels to feel like noone gives a damn...sometimes I feel like my own fiancee cares more about his past life than his present...things WILL get better...it seems like things go good and then we have a bad patch...bad patches can't last forever I hope you feel better soon..and you're not alone in your feelings..I feel the same as you some days hun
Hey Monica.. I know that you
Hey Monica.. I know that you are upset.. I would have responded to your posts because you are a good person to shoot the shit with and even though I dont have kids yet and my SD doesnt live with me I can understand where you dont feel appreciated. I have had my internet going crazy because of all the rain over here.. it works, then it rains a little and then everything goes to hell in a handbasket.. even my phone. I also started a new job and I dont get internet access... damn government.. LOL But seriously. Hang in there. We all have shitty days and we all just want to rip our own hair out and nobody seems to notice.
"Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful."
-Joshua J. Marine
I missed your comments.. we
I missed your comments.. we can put this one in the vault under "Moni flips her shit"
Congrats on your new job. How bad is the rain there? Family in Latta, but haven't heard anything from them.
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
LOL Its kinda emabarrasing
LOL Its kinda emabarrasing for me to say but I have had more days like the one that you are having that I would like to admit to. Well the rain finally stopped day before yesterday but it screwed up our stuff like the phone and internet.. we get weak signal anyways but its been really bad lately. The rain is gonna come back though and I am SO NOT LOOKING FORWARD TO IT. I used to live in the desert where they get 2 inches of rain a YEAR and now we get like 2 inches a freakin day!! YUCK.
"Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful."
-Joshua J. Marine
Monica
I handle anger the same way. I keep my mouth shut when I should stand up for myself. I often allow myself to be pushed to the point of a breakdown. I too do not have a lot of friends for the same reasons you stated. I feel anger and disappointment everyday. I know I am a complete strnger to you, but I don't want you to feel like you are alone. One night I got drunk and angry/sad and was totally alone and the only people I had to reach out to where a bunch of strangers online. A few people took the time to talk to me and it made all the diffrence. Please accept this invitation to talk with me in the future if you need or want to. I respect your decision to leave the site and I really hope you all the best in the future. God bless you
thank you
Thank you guys for the kind words really, but I honestly did not mean I was leaving because of you all. If anything you guys empowered the sh*t out of me in the last few weeks. I am sorry it came off that way. I honestly said I was leaving cuz I just dont have time, and yes, because I'm having a pity party today. But at least I admitted taht. It's not any of you.. I just feel very emotional today and a phone call I got set me over the edge. Again I'm sorry if I made you feel that my outburst was any of your faults
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
Hmm
Okay, you said that you do all this stuff for others at home & you don't say a word so you won't hurt other people's feelings. What about yours? Your feelings don't matter to those people? Were you already in tears when you got on here? If thats the case, it's no wonder that you're upset about the slightest rejection & criticism when you're actually reaching for support.
It sounds to me like you need to establish boundaries & start holding your own feelings at home just as important as everyone else's. When you do that you feel so much better, simply because it's a healthier situation.
Hipi
When you wish upon a falling star, your dreams can come true. Unless it's really a meteorite hurtling to the Earth which will destroy all life. Then you're pretty much hosed no matter what you wish for. Unless it's death by meteor.
I think that your advise is
I think that your advise is always so sincere. I would give advise but, sometimes I can't even write I just need to read and learn...
Thanks for always giving such great insight as well as your positive attitude.
Thanks
Hipi
When you wish upon a falling star, your dreams can come true. Unless it's really a meteorite hurtling to the Earth which will destroy all life. Then you're pretty much hosed no matter what you wish for. Unless it's death by meteor.
That was fast!
You came back!
I think you should reconsider leaving ST. Obviously you have time because you keep posting after telling Dawn to erase your account.
I am sorry you are having a bad day. I think everyone wants to help you, myself included. I've only posted a blog twice but I've responded to many others' blogs. I agree with CG that just because people don't reply to your blogs doesn't necessarily mean anything negative. Believe it or not, people don't think about you as much as you think they do.
We all complain about not enough hours in the day and we all have to deal with our kids getting sick because of the germ factories disguised as day care centers that make our kids sick, we all get runs in our stockings even. But I think that today is just not your day. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day for you.
It's your choice whether or not you want to come back to this forum. We're here if you need us and we'll try to offer up suggestions and help commiserate with you but if we don't answer, don't take it personally.
Also, just because someone doesn't answer, doesn't mean it hasn't been read! You can always see how many people have read your blog even if no comments have been posted. How do you think someone would feel if noone read your blog at all? My point really is, who cares? It's not a competition on who gets more comments than someone else. We're all here to support each other, not bash each other.
Nuff said.
MamaJenn24
yeah
I said this one before but I'll do it again lol... It really wasnt about how many people posted comments to my blog.
I don't post comments on a lot of peoples blogs. I was very upset said I didnt have time to be here but honestly it is because you guys bring out emotions in me that I am not prepared for. I started that whole thing off with the fact that I was having a piss poor day, and was pitying myself. Which by the way, I dont do very often.
So, just to clarify, my comment about people not responding was not to say oh im leaving because you guys dont like me enough to talk to me... it was more like, hey theres not alot of responsed and I dont have time to check so im gonna go, thanks for the help.
Thats how it sounded in my head but obviously not the way it sounded when read by others.
Please guys, I didnt mean that the comments or lack of comments were why I was leaving. I said time, even tho time was a lie. I am trying to learn how to deal with things that have been locked inside for a long long time, and I'm not good at it. Bear with me.
"It's always darkest before it turns absolutely pitch black."
- Paul Newman
Sometimes the past makes us numb
Numb...that's the word my husband used to describe me the other night. I guess to a point I am and I know after reading the posts from yesterday that there are others like me.
Mind You...I'm not always numb...some days are just worse than others. Those "Bad Days" as Monica described them. We all have them but that doesn't make us bad people....just terrribly, terribly normal...Especially given our individual yet similar situations.
the constant drama makes me numb
I have gotten to a point now when I have to listen about FSS and BM or the other FSkids that live with BM I just kinda shut down. I wonder what can I do??? HE NEVER takes my advice and then I become the bad guy..
oh well..
such is life!
Know what you mean
I know exactly what you mean. I've been the bad guy for years....at least in BM's eyes and now she has just about completely convinced 10 year old SS and 12 year old SD that I am the epitome of the "Evil Step-Mother".
I've always been the one to "push" my H not to take his ex's S*** when it comes to his kids (partly why BM doesn't like me) but he's always been afraid they will think poorly of him if he stands up to her and her mind games. Instead, he's buried his head in the sand and now things have gotten to the point that I'm afraid it may be too late for our relationship with SS and SD. Skid's have been manipulated with hate and mind games for so long they have been getting worse about believing everything BM says no matter what they experience while they are with us EOW and holidays.
After the latest ordeal of threatening me with legal action because I "swatted" the SS's bottom when he was here two weeks ago (according to BF rules of behavior because we've tried every passive way to get them to behave) I am at the point of giving up on Skids. SS went home and told BM that I spanked him on 3 separate occasions with a spoon on his back and legs....WHICH OF COURSE IS A HORRIBLE LIE!!!!! SD even got in on the act this time, which is unusual and told her lies as well. DID I MENTION THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR YEARS....JUST ESCALATING???
But, information we got a few days after threatening email from BM sheds some light. For years she has been REWARDING the kids with toys, dinners, video games or reprieve from "groundation" (BM's word notmine) for coming home and telling her lies or taking the truth and twisting it about us or events on weekends that they are here.
I know I shouldn't dwell on it but I've been furious over it for a week and all I can say is I GIVE UP!!!!!
Husband is pretty furious with his kids too but he still has his head halfway in the sand.....
I'm dreading Friday. That's when we're supposed to go get SS and SD.:sick