I know in mine I've thought if I...

...had been younger when I married H, I probably wouldn't have already been so set in my ways of doing things, thus making it easier to adjust to "sharing" my life with someone and the common expectation of a "wife" to in many ways "mother" the husband (at least from what I've seen.) I also think I would've accumulated less assets and therefore would've been more willing to share all of the assets I've worked so hard to accumulate because I wouldn't have done it alone - H & I would've built this lifestyle TOGETHER. Of course from my experience I also think there is probably a point when you are "too YOUNG" to get married too if you haven't had time to discover yourself and enjoy your life as a single FIRST. Unfortunately for me BOTH of my marriages fall into these categories of "too young" (married at 19yo, divorced by 21) and "too old" (over 35) IMO.

...had been younger when I had children, I might have been more eager to accept advice and "help" from others in raising my children because I would think I didn't have the knowledge or even know myself well enough yet to be selfless enough to focus 100% on taking care of someone else so helpless, and that I might've actually WANTED a life outside my children because I might not have felt so "accomplished" yet.

...had married my H when his children were very young (<5yo) like my BS was when H & I got together, then I believe I would've had more influence on the SC's values and the way they were being raised (at least when they were with us) so that I would probably have more of a bond with them now that I think would be very close to what I have with my own children rather than having to simply accept the way children who are already halfway or more to adulthood have been raised by their parents and deal with the tension it causes in my home and marriage due to lack of boundaries and discipline and preferential treatment.

I dunno. I know it's a stretch, but just something I've thought about in trying to make some sense of this mess, but I do realize these thoughts are futile sense you can't turn back the hands of time. Maybe I'm just wishing I was 26 again and all of our children were just cute cuddly little babies like BS1. Who doesn't love a cute baby?