I have come to the end of my rope with all the problems between bm and dh, dh and in laws and me and in-laws. I am officially overwhelmed and it takes a LOT for me to get to that point. I pretty much broke under the pressure of it yesterday morning. I just can't do it anymore. my life with my dh has slowly developed into revolving around bm and the inlaws.

We made the decision yesterday that we will go see a family counselor to help us figure out what we can do from here.

This came after dh and bm had a seemingly productive phone conversation in which he agreed to answer her calls (within some guidelines) if she would agree to let him be the primary communicator with his parents as it related to the kids. She agreed verbally but then turned around and spoke to his mother about it....after saying on the phone how she doesn't like talking to his mom and how she doesn't like his parents getting the kids on her parenting time. Then sunday, she drops the bomb on him that even though she has every weekend this month and she told him that he could have no extra time with the kids, she is sending sd to his parents house to spend the night.

I feel completely defeated right now. We both feel like we need a new, objective perspective and possibly someone who will give us the kick in the pants we need to stop letting these things affect us.

I have never had any kind of counseling before so I am a little scared, but I am so relieved that dh thinks it is more important for us to seek help than us to keep getting so upset and angry about stuff. He told me and is showing me that he hold our relationship as his highest priority. What an emotional roller coaster.