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First communication w/ BM re: skids

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Submitted by Mary Louise on Tue, 08/19/2008 - 2:23pm

Today I had to email BM for the first time re: ss. DH is in a seminar and has no access to email/computer. There is no phone communication w/ BM because it has been such a problem in the past. SS has a mouth sore and is losing his sh!t because it hurts. We tried OTC stuff, which he claims isn't helping, so today I had to talk to the Pediatrician to get a prescription called in.

I emailed her over an hour ago to let her know and have had NO RESPONSE WHATSOEVER. Her kid is in enough pain to warrant a prescription pain ointment and she can't be bothered I guess. I just can't believe she wouldn't at least call to talk to him and check on him.

Not sure where this opening of the door of communication will go, but hopefully it won't make things even worse.

Any advice on keeping communication to a minimum once started?

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Submitted by kathleen on Fri, 08/22/2008 - 6:34am

Hi, I responded to one of your posts and then saw this one, related. I just wanted to share with you my experience with BM. First, you did the right thing by letting her know her son was ill, or at least pretending to be. Second, that is all you need to do. I'm assuming you were the only one home so you sent the email. Otherwise, DH could send that message. If you don't want to open the flood gates, don't wait for an email back, and don't get into dialog with her. Put DH on the tail. If you don't have a very good relationship with her, the less you interact the better. You did a kind thing by keeping her informed. Who knows what she will do with that information, just let DH handle it from here.

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Submitted by stepwitch on Fri, 08/22/2008 - 11:50am

Taking care of the situation is very responsible of you, letting bm know is also very responsible. bm not responding, is not being responsible.

You are the better person here, and you know it. I had a lots of conversions with bm and she would be so nice to me and bla bla bla, but behind my back I was cinderella's stepmother, hence the screen name, Stepwitch. So if I could go back and do it all over again, I would never speak to that person at all. DH can't stand talking to her and when he does, he is nice, but not overly nice and has a way of telling her that she is a stupid piece without her even knowing it!!

Let dh deal with her. I'm so glad your ss has you. This won't go overlooked.

Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!