My Skids have be come so incredibly lazy. I mean they shove stuff under their bed and I have to ground them. I think they have forgotten our rules and insist to live by their vacations rules with their mom. Which there is no consistancy with them. So get this. my SSon who I love dearly peed the bed the other night. I don't understand how he can go from doing great when he left to becoming a three year old after staying with bm for summer. She let him do whatever because it was easier to give him what he wanted than listen to him whine. He played her so badly, I hope he made her spend a lot of money. anyways. he pees then SLEEPS ON IT. I exploded in the morning. THe WHAT WERE YOU THINKING speach that I seem to give a lot. USE YOUR HEAD KID!. anyways. don't get me wrong His down falls are his mother's fault and I am so used to fixing it. but sooner or later he is going to have to take responsibility for his behaivor. I tried to tell them before they left that the more they break the rules at their mothers the longer it takes to get them back to normal when they get back. SS has been tough this year. I always get this sick feeling when I think about what she made him into. He is my son more than her's and chances are next year I will refuse him to go for his own good. Its really bad for the kids to be bounced around like a rubber ball. I can seee it every year. It wears on them. anyways. I hope this hell gets back to normal soon. three days into school now and I allready am dreading grades.