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There is hope!

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Submitted by maldita on Tue, 10/19/2010 - 9:35am

Yesterday I was browsing through my FB home page and stumbled upon a friend's status that said:

"I know shout-outs are kinda old school, but I wanna give a shout-out to my evil stepmom who is ALWAYS there for my sister and I unconditionally. I don't need a special day or ocassion to tell you just how much I appreciate all that you are - and all that you do. Love you lots!"

I told him how much I appreciated this comment and he said:

"Maldita, there is hope. My sister wasn't too crazy about our stepmom when she was younger. She even lied about my stepmom trying to drown her once...LOL. It was too funny! We joke about this all the time. Now they call each other for everything. I cannot tell you how crazy my sister and I are about our stepmom – to the point where we have to watch it because my mom gets jealous. My mom is not on fb, if not, I couldn’t write those things. She’d delete me from her friend list. LOL"

Maybe one day after all the hard work, emotional rollercoaster, financial drain etc etc... that there is hope! Hope that one day all that I do for them will be appreciated. Hope that one day they will be adults and realize that I am here for them and I am not the evil stepmom their mom has painted me to be.

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Submitted by hbell0428 on Tue, 10/19/2010 - 11:06am

A comment like that would be a dream come true!! I never get anything like that; hell I'd even take it if she said it to me alone!!!!

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Submitted by j-dog on Tue, 10/19/2010 - 12:05pm

You know...I routinely tell my father's wife that she is the Bestest Stepmonster EVER.
And she is!
Rocky start at first--she started seeing my father when I was in my very early 20's, my sister in her late teens. She bent over backwards to agree with us, on EVERYTHING. It was annoying.
Then, she stopped...started snarking us when we did stuff she didn't like, or digagreed with, and our relationships with her have been pretty terrific since then (i.e. for 20 years!)
MY SD? Nope...I cannot even IMAGINE her saying anything nice about me, let alone TO me. No way, no how...aint' gonna happen...

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Submitted by maldita on Tue, 10/19/2010 - 12:23pm

I know my stepkids love me but they are cautious and avoid hurting their mom by not telling me how much they appreciate what I do. So I am hopeful...

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Submitted by maldita on Tue, 10/19/2010 - 2:29pm

So sorry to hear this, Rixchick. I feel this way sometimes. There are days when I just don't want to deal with them but then my conscience hits and I think, "I can't walk around my home with starving children," so I provide, yet again. I think of it as an investment. Maybe by investing on these kids, I will reap and harvest some appreciation. If I don't, then I still win because in God's eyes I have done good.