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Want my 20yr old step son to move out

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Submitted by Mabel64 on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 6:35pm

I have been married for almost 10 years now. His son moved in with us 8 months after we got married. His bio mom said that my husband could have him since he was married as long as she didn't have to pay CS. So that's how that went. I've had to leave work early to pick him up from school, take him to appt's ... etc. When she was asked it was always no. Now he is 20 years old and the most disrespectful lazy person I know. I have a bad back and he won't even mow the lawn. He expects me to do it because he works 2-3 days per week and I am unemployed. He pays for nothing, helps with nothing, has our vehicle to go to work ... My husband is just choosing to ignore everything and I can't take it anymore. The boy got into an accident with our vehicle and refuses to fix the damage. I have told him 5 times now that he cant drive the vehicle other than to and from work until he fixes it. He refuses and my husband wont say anything. I am so tired of being dismissed here and blown off. I love my husband but his fear of doing something to piss off his son is completely ruining our relationship. I need some sort of place to be able to vent my frustrations!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Submitted by Mabel64 on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 8:38pm

No I am not afraid of my husband. He is afraid that if he makes ultimatums that his boy will leave. He HAS to leave - get a life - and be a man. GET THE F**** out of my house. He has no respect for me or his father. He didn't even give him a bday or father's day card - how much of an asshole is that. So no Im not afraid. Im afraid of our home being broken up because he wont let go of his boy. He is an adult and needs to to. We need to be a couple.

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Submitted by Mabel64 on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 8:24pm

I have had it. I just told my husband that he had to do something. He lays around and does nothing. Drives the extra vehicle even though I told him he cant. I am mad and I have had it. I told him that he makes $1500/ month and he can move out and I wont stand for it anymore. I have to hide my purse/money - he stole $7000 from me in the past and my husband said "maybe someone broke in the house". Bullshit, I've had it and if he has to go with his boy then fine. That's how it has to be. I am DONE!!!!

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Submitted by Mabel64 on Wed, 06/27/2012 - 8:31pm

I am not afraid of my husband. I have had it and I just exploded on him. The boy needs to go. He is making money and can move out. He keeps food and drink in his room for weeks and now we have ants. He was told not to drive the extra vehicle until he had it fixed from his accident. He refuses. I have no support system here and I have just had it and exploded. My husband will most likely move out with his son even though he knows and states that he is a lazy SOB - but he is his son and he will go. Im done. Im tired of drinking myself into a stuper because I have no say. He just dismisses everything I say and ignores all the rules. He NEEDS TO MOVE OUT. Thank you for the forum. I dont have anywere else.

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Submitted by Mabel64 on Thu, 07/05/2012 - 11:43am

Here is the latest. He took our van - because he thinks it's his - and got in an accident in April - broke the headlight and grill. He says there is nothing wrong with the van. I told him 5 times now that he has to fix it - I gave him till July 20th and he can only drive it to and from work - he works 6pm - 6am - but now he took it over night somewhere - not acceptable. I have tried to talk to DH but he doesn't want to hear it. He says I'll take care of it in my own time. It's been 3 weeks now since all of this crap went down and I've had it. I am at the point of telling him that they both have to go. Im no angel - trust me - I have my drinking stints - but to be so disrespected that I've pretty much been told to F-off by the boy and my husband doesn't do anything about it is so irritating I can't take it anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!