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Submitted by luvenlife on Mon, 09/13/2010 - 12:31pm

i am a step mother of a 23yrold step son he moved in with his dad and i at the age of 15. he was in troubel withthe courts due to stealing and doing drugs. all i can say he is know 23 and the situation has only gotten worse dad travels due to his job. needless to say dad thinks i'm the crazy one cause his son lies to his father.this is a young adult who has stolen from every family member, strangers, friends,stores and just recantly a pharmacy, dad is so blind that he thinks the police are harrassing his son.dad put up his house to get his son out of jail 4 weeks after he's out of jail he's arrested for driving under the influance of drugs and found drugs in the car. i'm the only one that say's anything to my step son this kid has NEVER been disapland by his parents tehy would rather be hi freind. there have been sooo many arguments between my husband and mysself due to his son but dad ALWAYS takes his son's side. i am the one to see my step son 24/7 on drugs have seen drug deals going on in my drive way and drug deals going on in our home down stairs where but when i say any thing to my stepson he calls dad and tells dad i'm being a bitch then dad calls me and gives me shit this has been going on for 8yrs know,when dad is home his son acts like the perfect child. what due i due his son even @ the age of 23 he play's his father against me. am i the only one in this situation. :?

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Submitted by Timetogiveup on Mon, 09/13/2010 - 12:36pm

Nope.....I am too. My DH is sooooo blind to his son's behavior. The kid (16) wouldn't know the truth if it bit hinm in the butt. The therapist said he lies more than I think....she believe he really doesn't know what the truth is. He lies about little things and big things. Two weeks ago, he told his father a pack of lies about me....I even said to DH LISTEN TO WHAT YOU ARE SAYING.....does that sound like me? He said no....but kept on going. WHat you are saying is my worse nightmare because yours is 23 and he didn't go away yet.....when do they go away???

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Submitted by luvenlife on Mon, 09/13/2010 - 1:04pm

yes my stepson has a job but he only works from 9:00 am til 1:00p.m monday thru friday and no he doe not contribute nothing to the household he has no bills no responsobility but some how 2 days after he is paid he is broke and calling his father for $ then i get the phone call i'm told that i HAVE TO GO WITHDRAW $ AND THAT STARTS AN argument between me and ny husband because im told i have to do it. and the comment i hear from my husband what is the big f------- deal this is on a weekly basic that is another problem cause when my kids lived there they had to pay $50.00 a week if they didn't they where told they can get out. the car is my stepsons car not mine THANK GOD and there was no talk to me about putting the house up cause my name is not on the deed.

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Submitted by luvenlife on Mon, 09/13/2010 - 12:48pm

i really don't know was @ the mall the other day with my husband a conversation came up and i asked his father when does his son move on and the reply was maybe i don't want him to move on. makes me wonder if i'm the one that should move on Sad

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Submitted by luvenlife on Mon, 09/13/2010 - 1:14pm

your so right i just wish his father would see it that way and throw his sons ass out soooo many people have told me that my stepson is ruining our marraige so confused cause i love my husband but hate my stepson i know thats not nice to say but have your stepson lie cheat and steal from you and family and add drugs on toop of that.