I MAY be slightly vindictive...
BM once told SS that I was not "permanent." Since then I take EVERY opportunity to reinforce that I am, wether she likes it or not.
Not that I feel the need to prove anything really, but since she's gonna try her best to make our lives as miserable as possible anyway, why not piss her off in the process?
It's been 5 years and I'm still here. Oh, and pregnant with OUR 2nd. YES, DH is HAPPILY remarried and has TWO kids with ME. No, he will not be divorcing a 2nd time like you.
I go to every pick up and drop off...and I love the scowl she gets on her face when I get out of the car to greet SS at pick up time.
I know, it's juvenile... but seriously, it's like the only highlight of those long trips.
I also send him home with wedding/baby/birthday, etc photos that he asks for copies of. (Which i'm sure go "missing" upon arrival, but I'm making him an album of his own to give to him upon graduation down the road, just like I'm doing for my own kids.)
Now if only SS and I could get on better terms, that'd really burst her bubble.
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Denture Debbie would always
Denture Debbie would always tell her mom that hubby and I would not make it. She "knows" him and he won't make it with me. Her mom would always tell her "They look happy together." Nope she would say. He is faking it. He is so unhappy. She even went so far as to text that to him. Bawhahahahahaa
It took SD telling her mom how close we are to stop that talk. Then it became, he is picking her over you SD. What a joke. This from a woman who does not parent her child and lost custody of her.
Oh wow, that is not something
Oh wow, that is not something I had thought about...it's true that most gifts sent home end up destroyed or "missing"...You've given me food for thought.
I don't understand why some
I don't understand why some BM's do that...
Like they feel that he walked out, now is with someone else, I have to compete and be better than the new girl.
I'm a BM too,
I don't feel threatened by my kids SM, I'm HAPPY to see their Dad happy, I will scream it to the world "HE WAS NOT HAPPY WHEN HE WAS WITH ME! I CAN TELL HE IS HAPPY NOW" I'm happy for him! SM makes him more happy that I EVER did!
I wanted the divorce because he was not happy, and I wanted him to move on and find happiness, he had it.
I don't feel the need to compete with anyone or trash my ex to my kids.
The things BM says about SM being "not permanent" or "not happy"
It makes her look so pathetic and like she has no self worth!
My BM acts like that and it makes her look so pathetic I almost feel sorry for her, why couldn't she have more pride and be less pathetic and jealous. even if you are, don't show it BM! my god, so pathetic!
BM said the same about me and
BM said the same about me and DH but that was because she was upset he actually married me. They were together for 6 years and even after she had SS, DH told her she was not marriage material and he wouldn't marry her.
I think you are going overboard with sending pictures and going to drop off. If she's already bad talking you then she already feels threatened enough, there's no need to involve the kid with the pictures and whatnot.
So what should she tell the
So what should she tell the kid when he asks for pictures to take home?
Lol, those of course aren't
Lol, those of course aren't the only reasons I do these things.
If SS wants copies of event and family photos, especially ones he is in, I won't deny them to him. As for drop off and pick up, DH and I pretty much go everywhere together when we can, and a long road trip is good time for us as a family spent together.
I had to tell sd (when I was
I had to tell sd (when I was first married to dh that she doesn't have to choose. She is allowed to be happy and love BOTH families. She was 6, and her 6mother made her believe that she had to choose and that she should only love BM's family.
We as sm's worry that bm is poisoning or skids against dh or the family, and we try so hard to make skids love us. Sometimes the best thing to do is tell them it's OK to love BM and it's OK to live daddy, it's OK to be happy in both houses and love both families.
I feel that I must have really struck a soft spot with that because as soon as I said that she started crying. It wasn't her usually loud screaming cry, it was her eyes got really red, her eyes filed with tears and she cried, quietly but a lot. It was one of the very few times I felt she had been genuine.
I too have seen texts from BM
I too have seen texts from BM to the kids saying:
"what, I'm not the favorite one anymore"
As in the child needed to pick between her and DH as to "who" was the favorite parent. Clearly she doesn't know it makes the child resentful when you do that! She is digging her own grave and I say...dig away fatty!
The thing that drives BM
The thing that drives BM nuts. DH married me and not her. The second thing: I never had to get pregnant to catch/keep him. }:)
But yes, the skids get caught in the crossfire, unfortunately. In our case, all I had to do was breathe and she hated it. Meh. Here we are going on 14 years being married. She FINALLY got married for HER first. I guess having the guy's baby worked that time.