Hi there fellow steppers

Just letting off steam – thank you for listening……

My partners daughter 16 ½ (17 in 4 months) has control / entitlement / attachment issues re my SO (I have posted a lot!!!)

Anyhow – she has an ‘alleged’ eating disorder that started last May when my partner and I decided to sell our houses and buy one together – this is not happening now as his daughter moved in with him last June and that put an end to us living together – we have been together almost 11 years. (sigh…….)

SD finally went to GP last October re not eating / losing weight – she was referred to Mental Health Eating Specialist Clinic for group therapy and is weighed weekly at GP surgery by a nurse.

She went to her first session on Tuesday 22nd January (hurrah!!!) – 2nd session was due 29th Jan.

BM took her to her appointment under protest (BM protesting because it would cost her petrol money to take her a 20 minutes’ drive - one way only as partner was picking SD up - Oh and BM pays nothing / nada / diddly squat for her daughter).

If you recall my other long posts BM threw SD out last May when she started creating re my partner and I selling our houses.

BM has been very controlling for last 11 years and more recently re he times she would see her daughter since she moved out – BM decided it’s her life and she will do what she wants!!!

BM took SD to first therapy session and went in with her!!!!

BM apparently didn’t like the look of the girls in the group and SD said they were all fat and eat too much – apparently one young girl shared with the group she felt she used food to control issues and problems in her life because she was raped by her dad – very sad. This is a REAL problem not just a teenage girl being a silly / spoilt / entitled princess like SD.

So BM has decided SD is not going again.

I asked partner what he thinks about this and he just shrugged his bloody shoulders and said he didn’t really want his daughter mixing with this sort of people OMG could not believe my ears!!!!

He also said they were all over eaters so it wouldn't do his daughter any good - I explained to him the rationale of eating disorders to him - FOOD is the focus and the control and it doesn’t matter if they starve themselves or overeat and binge!!!!
So spoilt / entitled princess SD took the place in the new 20 week sessions from someone else who may be desperate to go and would really benefit – she is selfish girl and her parents are stupid too !!!

So:

•I asked my partner if they have cancelled her place at clinic – he answered ‘I don’t’ know’.

•I asked partner if they had contacted clinic to explain the reasons SD is not going and to ask what happens now and perhaps arrange a meeting – he answered ‘I don’t know’.

•I asked him if they were taking her back to her doctors – he answered ‘I don’t know’.

•I asked if they were going to continue watching her lose weight to control them – he answered ‘I don’t know’.

•I asked what they were going to do to get this girl help – he answered ‘I don’t know’.

He then flung himself round (he is 48 years old) and said he was fed up and had had enough!!!!

I as utterly gobsmacked so I suggested to him that he contacts the Eating Disorder Clinic arrange to meet with them to find out what happens now i.e. will they still see her / will they offer her 1:1 therapy / will they still weigh her each week or go to his daughters GP and request a private counsellor and PAY!!!

OMG this just goes on and on – they are the most stupid parents I have ever met – they won’t talk to each other – their daughter just gets more and more controlling by the day – she is spoilt / entitled / miserable / sick / petulant and in the throes of a very dangerous eating disorder game.

They all suck the life out me.

My mantra – not my daughter / not my business / not my problem / live my life and be done with them!!

Thank you for listening and letting me vent – feel so much better.