I just want him to understand my point of view.  And be on my side.  
I have told him my terms for ever being around the skids. 
1. Advance notice, 2. Neutral location, 3, Non holiday or special occasion date, 4. No herd parties with the skids BM or relatives.
 

Just one set of skid at a time. Nothing ever with the MSD who wrecked this train and who will never own up to what she did. Thankful she lives in another state and does not come around. He does not visit her either.  

The YSD lives local and DH sees her a few times a year at the gskid birthdays and near Christmas for the gift giving occasions. He says that she says that I am invited to these herd parties. No thank you.  I don't consider a text to him 'LostInSpaceAndTime can come' as an invite to me. No way walking into that viper nest.  
 

Yes he does need to respect my privacy. His out of state OSD rolling up in my yard does not respect me.  It is nauseating when she calls and he jumps....GKids want to see our dogs...he does not even say why can't she plan to see him ahead of time, or how about when she leaves her state hours away she gives a heads up and plans to see him. No of course not. 
 

I will take the drive next time. I will just toss the dogs in the car and go.  I think I will even pack a go bag with some food, treats, water, leashes and just keep the car harnesses in the car. I can put them in the car quick and go down the road a ways and get them settled.  So tired of this crap.  The YSD rolled up on the road one day with about five minutes notice wanting him to bring the dogs out to let her kids see them.  And he did.  I was so pissed.  At least they stayed in the car.
My dogs do not know these people. I do not know how my dogs would be with people they don't know. Especially kids.  The GSon today started barking at the dogs, DH had to tell him to stop. Then GSon wanted to run thru the yard while DH was walking the dogs on the leash trying to settle them. He had to tell the kid to not run.  My dogs are herding dogs. They want to herd things that move fast.  I stayed inside but could hear the dogs barking. 

I am going to tell him no more show and tell dog visits if they never reconcile with the dogs Mom (me).  If he does not listen then I will be taking some drives.  I feel violated and invaded. And I don't want people touching my dogs right now anyway with the Covid. They all wore masks because Dh is high risk but who knows if they were picking their nose before they rolled up. 
Even if they used hand sanitizer that is not good. It makes the dogs sneeze to smell that on my hands.  
 

And thanks for asking but no my Dad's estate is not settled.  The stepsister who is executor bought the property on July 1st and still has not given us our share of the sale funds. She is renovating and moving in but never paid us. She signed the deed over to herself, it all seems fine with the court. Yet we never signed anything. She never even had to produce a valid sale contract. And she first said in March she was going to buy it. It took til June and a court order for her to get it done in 30 days for her to actually buy it. She wanted more time. We had another buyer lined up with a higher offer who came to a hearing even.  She cried in court and the judge gave her till the end of the 30 days to do it.

The estate attorney is a dweeb. He has not done anything but delay, act as her private attorney and make our lives hell. 
We just filed another motion to compel them to submit the final accounting and pay us our shares.  This is what the judge already said needed to be done by July.  And they never did an estate sale. Just took everything lock stock and barrel.  Our attorney went on maternity leave, her boss does not even know our case or pay attention to what we send her. I am looking up law stuff on the internet all the time.  My sisters are about to go postal on some people.  I live too far away to go to hearings. Just did one zoom one.  

The law and the system is a joke. The court is only in session two weeks a month. The estate attorney uses his baby puking as an excuse why he can't schedule a hearing date or get his job done.  
As soon as we get our checks there will be a bar association complaint. 

we are certain they have hidden assets of our dads, likely delayed to cash in bank certificates. His personal jewelry was stolen. We just can't prove anything. Whatever was in dads account went to stepbi%$h since her name was on the account.  We think it is why they are refusing to submit formal accounting. My dad trusted these idiots and they are all evil vipers.  
 

It has been a nightmare since dad passed in Feb 2019.  Constant stress and no time to grieve proper. It is bad to be pissed at your dead dad for leaving you in this situation.  
 

Now they want to give us a partial payment (6 heirs) and keep $24,000 in the estate acccount.  Who is that to go to? The lawyer won't tell us what his bill is.  He won't send account even though he lies to our lawyer that he has it ready.  
 

sorry so long. Guess I needed to get that out.  
We just want it to be done.  They have already stolen everything. We got our grandmothers iron bed frame back that the stepbrother had taken. Yet he still felt entitled to it and wrote nasty stuff on my dad's remembrance page on Facebook.last year. 
And the other stepsister wrote nasty stuff on Facebook about us on the day of our Uncles funeral this summer (dad's brother). Yet since we are not rich holly wood stars the law does not care. 
we are just the wretched daughters according to these evil skids of my dad.  
 

will be glad when this is over and this miserable year is done too.