Bills, bills, bills.
I need to vent for a minute or two before FH comes home.
The month of November was very difficult for us financially, and this month wasn't looking so hot either. FH is a car salesman and is on commision only, and I have had a difficult time finding a full time job. When FH recieves a check, 60% is automatically taken out until CS ($667) is paid. It's tough, especially when it's so slow that it takes him all month just to barely have the CS paid.
I had to borrow $$ from my grandmother to make our rent this month. I feel terrible because I know that me not having a steady job puts a big load on FH. I went to Community Action to get help with our past due electric bill. I was informed that we made $13 too much in November to recieve any assistance. WTF is that shit? $13?! What can I do with that?!
But FH called me a few minutes to let me know that he made an awesome car deal -- close to $1000! But guess what? 60% of that shit is already gone. It blows. And I can't help but dislike skids for it (even though I know it's not their fault). BM too. If they didn't exist, we wouldn't have to struggle so much .. I hate feeling this way.
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I totally understand how you
I totally understand how you feel. My SO is always saying that he wants to be able to take care of me and our DD1 but that isn't going to happen until all his kids are 18. The bad thing is, my SO will spoil his kids beyond belief plus has his CS to pay. That leaves me with paying the bills. Even if I wanted to spoil my DD1 (which I am not going to because I don't want her to end up behaving like SO's kids...spoiled brats), that is not going to happen because all my money going towards bills.
I don't think it's fair to DD1 and he doesn't understand it. He just says that I don't want him to spend money on his kids. And that's not the case. I just don't think they NEED to be pampered with gifts every time they turn around.
Hugs! It's natural to feel
Hugs! It's natural to feel that way considering how hard things are for you guys right now. Has your DH gone to Court to try to modify the child support amount?
He WAS paying $831, but we
He WAS paying $831, but we had it lowered in July. We still can't afford it, but the court doesn't care that he's commision only and may or may not make CS every month. It blows.
I am so sorry to hear this,
I am so sorry to hear this, but I understand how you feel.... I have those feelings from time to time myself too. Actually, more often than not. I get really irritated that we lose out on $600 every month. I mean, that is no pocket change, that is a mortgage payment! The CS is always taken care of. Then we just hope that we have enough to cover the rest of the bills. But be sure that BM always has her f'ing CS, even if we are about to get our electric shut off for non-payment. It's rediculous. And you can't help but get bitter about it. Finances are a big stress in mine and DH's life and it would be a hell of a lot easier if we didn't have to deal with that crap. It's always nice to have to either worry that if it's a tight month on money that we will either have no heat, or a warrant will go out for DH's arrest. It's great.....
And it's not even as though
And it's not even as though CS goes for the skids. It goes to keep BM and her DH up and keep them in their "holier-than-thou" lifestyle.
I HATE YOU, BM. I HATE YOU FOR HAVING SD TO TRAP FH. I HATE YOU FOR HAVING SS JUST TO BE ABLE TO GET MORE CS SINCE YOU KNEW YOU WERE GOING TO DIVORCE FH BY THAT TIME.
AAAAH.
Completely agree. BM has
Completely agree. BM has three incomes to rely on: hers, her boyfriend, and DH. And of course, all the dumb asses that fall for her "poor me i'm a single mom" game and help her out even more financially.
BM has 3 incomes as well. BM
BM has 3 incomes as well. BM and her DH have great paying jobs, and then she gets CS from FH. Back during the summer when FH had his CS lowered, she was FUMING and said that SS couldn't play fall ball (teeball in the fall) because she "couldn't afford it" because of the loss of CS. It was only lowered $164 .. But 4 months later, they bought a house!
Heck, as far as FH and I know (we haven't seen proof either way), the skids are still on a medical card from the state. She's been telling FH that they were on her DH's insurance (we don't have insurance), so that FH would pay more in CS.
I'm sorry ya'll are having
I'm sorry ya'll are having such a hard time
Sending (((Hugs))) your way!
there was a point when we
there was a point when we didn't have money like this.....we were so broke and couldn't survive. my dh busted his butt at work to pay with her bad mouthing us the whole time. now we pay 1200 for 1 kid who dropped out of school, smokes pot, and was kicked out of her house 3 times. 18 is coming baby! hang in there!!!
we appreciate things so much because of our struggles, but it wasn't fair. we had a baby to feed,and have heat for too.
I agree; I raised three
I agree; I raised three children of my own and then ended up starting again with an 11 year old who has the 'Golden Child Syndrome'. Luckily, my SO and I have discussed things (an ongoing one, with reminders, probably) and agree that needs and wants are two different things. SD11 isn't too happy that her every wish isn't granted anymore but, then again, I AM the World's Most Evil Person (vying for the Universal Title as we speak). }:)
It seems a lot of people are
It seems a lot of people are struggling financially and that doesn't help with the relationship at all. My BF and I both work full time jobs and we still struggle. $1000 a month is his CS payments. It really is insane.
There are soooo many people
There are soooo many people struggling right now. People are strapped for cash, but BM doesn't care. We work, we dont know if we are going to get layed off or if our pay is going to get decreased. We just hope and prey that doesn't happen. Yet, BM gets the advantage of knowing she gets her check every single month by a certain time no matter what.
Thank you all for your
Thank you all for your support! It means alot!