Which way do I go
First off. Thank you, thank you. For all your happiness for me. I really appreciate it and you.
Ok. As some of you know 16SD & I have been getting along very well. BF & I took her to visit the Job Corp center. None of us where happy with the place. So I told her we will figure it out. How to get working papers and A GED. While BM was away this weekend, 16SD called me like 3 times to talk about what I've found out and just to bullshit. I told her, first thing, you need a annual exam.I told her she can either go to a Dr. up there or I can schedule her where we go, talk to your Mother.
Anyway, yesterday, SD called me a twice. She said BM wants her to go to a Dr. up there. SD tells me she made the appointment herself and they told her she needs to bring the working papers to the appointment. Cool, I was proud of her. She was proud of her. The second time she called, I wasn't in a good spot, it was short. Later on I called her back and the shit hit the fan.
While talking with her about my new ring, I hear BM in the backround demanding to know why I called. Sd said "She just wanted to let me know that it's ok with them to take me to the Dr. appointment." I quickly told SD to end our call.
Not even a minute later BF's cell phone goes off. He ignores it. Then mine goes off. She left me such a sarcastic, shitty message.
I hate her f@!king voice. She told me I need to get a life and stop calling HER daughter all day long. She told me I was pathetic because I'm not working right now. She told me I was lazy because I sit around all day. She told me THESE ARE MY DAUGHTERS AND I AM TO BE INVOLVED IN EVERYTHING. She told me I was completely overstepping my bounds. She actually refered to me as 'honey' a couple of times. She ended it with saying isn't cute, now I'm the one that's happy and your sitting home.
Needless to say I wanted to puke. We haven't heard from BM or SD since. But here's my question.
Do I lay low, and let the Mother of the year handle the working papers and GED stuff. Or continue doing what I was doing.?
Thank you in advance for your input.
Jo
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She's FEARLESS
Hey Fearless, tell us what you really think!! LOL Great response and you are soooo right. The SD will figure it out eventually. Why, why, why do exes have to put the kids in the middle?
Glynne
You surprised me on that one.
I thought for shit sure out of everyone you would have said keep doing what you're doing.
I was very bothered at that fact that I couldn't stand up for my self. Bf & I were still on our happy plane, so he told me just to leave it alone. I want so bad, once, even just once, to verbally rip Darkness a new asshole. Have any of you ever had the pleasure.?
Welllllllllllllll...
I did get in one really good, satisfying dig one time. We were at a really low point... we hadn't been allowed to see the kids in over a year, no one was returning our calls or emails, we'd found out by checking their county's online accident reporting database that SS had been in a car accident when his SF was driving (speeding, he was at fault) and no one had called us, SF had been hospitalized for illness and no one had called us, we found three separate police reports that SF had beaten up BM in front of the kids, we discovered that SF had been in and out of rehab. All of this was happening, we were finding it out in dribs and drabs over a period of several weeks and, because we couldn't get ahold of the kids, my husband called DHS to see if someone could check in on them and let him know that they were okay. Well, as soon as DHS came knocking on her door, she emailed ME - although HUBBY was the one who called DHS - and used a lot of colorful and abusive language to tell me what a bitch I was for reporting her. I just emailed her back and said that I understood she was having a lot of problems and that I hoped she soon got the help she needed, for her sake and that of these innocent children. Then I said I would pray for her. She's the pseudo-religious type... always dresses to the nines to appear in church, but doesn't live the life off church grounds. As soon as I sent it, I blocked her email address.
~ Anne ~
Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice: Pull down your pants and slide on the ice! -M*A*S*H (Sidney Freedman to the OR staff on dealing with stress)
i agree with fearless jo
but man what a bitch- but classier is better!!! And it just shows what and adult you are and hoe immature she is.
You folks
are my HEROES! Wow, your BM gets the award for best dramatic performance of the day! Jo: She's just a stupid b*tch who truly isn't happy..She and other like her will NEVER be happy for whatever reason. You're a good person and thats something she can't dispute!
Thank you
And as an update. I have not heard from my SD16 since. BM won this round. Let's see how long it takes Mother of the year to get off her lazy ass to take this kid to get her working papers and find a GED program.
And I was very pleased to hear that my SD9 got beat up 2 days ago walking home from school alone. It is rediculous. BF has spoken to BM about the dangers of this girl walking to & from school alone. Mainly kiddnapping. This woman's parenting skills are so freaken poor it's know wonder the girls are a mess. Yes, this is the same darling that fell off the roof a month ago.
I am so close to the last straw. I don't even care what she thinks about me. I'ld like her to put that much effort into thinking about her kids.
oh jo!
what a mess! typical that the crazy bm would try to mess things up!, and how scary for the younger one. Can you text sd16 to say hello, how are things, do you need help?...or will the hell break loose? it is terrible the kids have to suffer from the drama caused by this woman! I have just caught up on the site after a coule busy days, and just now have the house to myself..I understand wanting to rip a new one Jo, and I wish I could say when I did it with bm#1 it worked....now that ss is mia, nothing is worse than these woman needing a kick in the ass and no one can! My concern is that your sd seems to be motivated now for the job corp, and GED the longer bm plays the drama card and not the reality card the less she may be motivated. I wouldn't have the patience, I would try to make contact with sd16 and see if she wants help ...even if it is co-vert opperation....you can be her secret sidekick?! Your poor FIANCE must be so tired of all this crap and worried for his kids!