I know there are always two sides to every story and sometimes five sides to a story so this is just from my perspective....

for the past two years, since we told her I was dating her ex, every day to every other day between four to ten emails from his ex saying how bc I don't have kids of my own, I am a home wrecker, the kids are told not to listen to anything I say...etc. Obviously the kids, now 9 & 16, are going to be conflicting bc of what they are being told by their mom and then have to abide by our rules on our home. We have had countess attempts to try and talk to the ex about her making rules for our house, telling the kids negative things about their father and about seeing their father every other weekend, and now it's all focuses on me in every email.

*background*
They have been divorced for going on five years now, separated for seven. He has always paid child support even before it was court ordered and official by the court. We live two hrs away bc of his job and now he has the flexibility to have the kids every other weekend. The ex constantly throws the distance in his face and has implanted that in the kids as well. We are constantly flexing visitation bc of the kids' activities and things they want to participate in but it always ends up biting us in the back. She on the other hand won't flex anything if we want to take trips or do an activity on her weekend we are now inconveniencing her and being rude to her...

Her main focus is the younger one, girl 9, bc the second the daughter says she had a good time here and with me watch out here comes the attacks on me. How can we focus this back n the kids and stop her nastiness spreading further to the kids? The things she says we later find out are lies and fabrications of her own opinion.

Help....