My daughters father is a worthless POS

And if I didn't love my kiddo as I do ... I totally regret giving that weak loser the time of day.

So after this a$$clown pretended to be broke and refused to exercise his parenting time (he lives out of town and made more money in a couple years than most people make in their lifetime...he's only pretending to be poor so that I feel guilty and he can easily con me out of my limited resources) ... I reported his b*tch a$$ to the lawyers and court system.

I sued him into oblivion every time he tried to deny rights our kid was entitled to, I held him accountable on record and at the last hearing this fool pretended to be so poor he requested to have a public defender (after he retained the top lawyer in town who dropped him like a bad habit when his real cheap entitled a$$ thought these people would work for him for free because of his status)

Anyways this c*nt found a loophole in our states weak legislation and as I was about to nail his a$$ to the wall for disrespecting our child (by having him arrested/locked up in one of the worst jails in the region) and my p*ssy a$$ misogynistic lawyer let this fool walk out of court only paying me $500

I never saw that douchenozzle again nor has our daughter

That was 5 years ago.

Since then he's been treating our kid like how f*ck boys treat women. He only texts her, makes fake promises to see her and never follows through (it's always something I have to do to help pay for him). And just recently started triangulating with this other kids (this nasty joker had my daughter first, two kids with his now ex wife, and a kid with his mistress lol) but popping up on FaceTime when she's talking with them.

Now this nut job promised to "spend time" with "all" of his kids for the holidays. Now as far as I know he's only been taking care of the kids he had with his ex wife.

Now this cheap b@stard is telling our kid that he would procure ONE WAY travel (and expected me to cover the other half ... when I know this fool is covering full transportation to see his other kids who live out of town from him) - trying to line me up as the "bad guy" if I rightfully refuse.

Not my fault this idiot has kids all over the US. Not my fault I reported his sh*tty behavior (and now he has an arrest warrant). He should have saved up or slanged some p33n to afford travel expenses for all of his kids.

On what planet does someone who is mentally sane think they can evade child support for years, defy court orders that specify they pay for travel during their custody time, then think I'm paying half of his custody travel expenses when I've been doing 110% for the last 5 years.

I don't condone domestic violence..... but I see why people end up on snapped.

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I hear you, Hon!

My ex, the psychopath, fled across the country to avoid paying child support and, back in the early 60s, CS was not enforced like it is today. The a$$hole, now 80 years old and a sad, lonely, fat, bald oldster, cannot understand why his daughters want absolutely nothing to do with him. Yawn.

Here's hoping that your girl's father spends his holiday in the slammer. Looks like we both made two bad choices but hey, three times lucky; my husband is handsome, slim, broad-shouldered, solvent and treats me like a queen. I have a feeling that you will find your own prince charming, now that you know what NOT to accept!

Psychopath describes it all

This narcissistic psychopath over here is now balding, aged HARD, with a beer gut and he's only late 30's

You have a good point granny d , dealing with the bad apples make you wiser/realize/attract the good apples when you see them

I did a few years ago and the

I did a few years ago and the stupid misogynistic lawyer I mistakenly hired (instead of having him locked up and forced to come up with the FULL arrearage which was over 5 figures) only made him pay "what he allegedly could" which was 500

that fool walked out of court and never saw his bitch ass again.

since he lived out of state I would have either had to hire 2 sets of attorneys or use the state government child support office / attorneys (which our state here is a clusterfuck of typical lazy disorganized government workers) located in the hood.

I may just suck it up and give one last lawsuit even if I have to use the state government cs enforcement resources even if they $19 at least it will be the principle and not necessarily for the money.

That's awesome your wife had

That's awesome your wife had you by her side supporting her

The court antics are expensive and draining emotionally

And at least spermgrandhag paid something

This grandhag over here constantly enabled her son, I called out her enabling behaviors, and the more she doubled down on enabling her sons unsavory behavior the more annoyed I got to the point I revoked her grandparent privileges.

I sued this narcissistic psychopath from sun up to sun down for YEARS (over a decade) because he treated our daughter like something it was optional to do. And despite him being a multimillionaire (who pretended not to have money so I wouldn't sue him for cs) (while I was doing most of the work raising our kid on a barely average salary) he was always trying to make me pay half.

When I found out his now exwife sued him in court (because he cheated on her constantly and had a baby on her during their marriage) .... I kicked his pathetic a$$ while he was down, turned up the heat (to the "HELL" setting - since that's where that demon originates/is used to), and sued him at the same time lol! So he would get so discombobulated being sued in multiple court systems. I even started a class action campaign and encouraged any woman done wrong by him to sue him too.

I was so enraged by his unsavory behavior I somehow figured out how to do private investigative work and found ALL of his divorce proceeding records/his business/his real estate holdings/ and more.

Since he's such a liar his ex wife had to hire a forensic accountant. I found those records too and used all the evidence his exwife paid for in my court proceedings. He's so dumb he doesn't know I found his divorce proceeding records and still thinks I'm buying the con game of him being "poor" now when I know good and dang well what type of men need forensic accountants in family court.

Sadly my work was in vain because I hired the wrong lawyer and the misogynistic mf let this deadbeat psychopath walk out of court only paying 500 when he should have been tossed in jail and been forced to mysteriously come up with the entire arrearage that he owed.

Hadn't seen nor talked to the psychopath since.

Now he wreaks havoc through text with fake promises and mind games he tries to use on our daughter

I know it was wrong and I try to stay out of it but I told her to not get her hopes up and to block him.... I probably shouldn't have told her to block him but really annoyed with him emotionally abusing her.

She has to sit back and watch him take care of his other kids while he lies to her and pretends he can't afford to take care of her. Then attempts his triangulation to throw me under the bus "oh I could have seen you but your mom won't pay for the other have of the ticket"

B*tch you haven't paid child support in over 5 years, how tf can you not afford a round trip plane ticket when we know you can afford to travel and take care of your other kids.

It's one thing to have a genuine hardship. I would have helped in that instance but to LIE, sneak, hide, pretend (like I'm stupid) so he can take advantage of me (I haven't made multimillons yet and I'm not so reckless that I have numerous kids I allegedly can't afford so no I don't think I should have to pay half of his custody visit travel)

I really don't feel like calling the spermgrandhag over here, giving her narcissistic supply, and force her to help her son act like a normal sane human. And I really don't feel like spending more time, effort, energy, and throwing good money after a narcissistic demon who just won't do right. Ugh!!!!

My first set of lawyers were

My first set of lawyers were high priced, experienced, and well connected around the court system.

Won A LOT of money and benefits for my daughter with them. it was worth it to sue him.

But after a decade of dragging him into court, I ran out of money and my narcissistic family member said they'd help fund it but didn't like my lawyers I'd been using fired them then hired some unbeknownst to me at the time misogynistic lawyer who acted like he worked for my ex.

This sh*tty lawyer was horrible and I lost a lot of momentum.

I got a prepaid legal service with my employers and I'm going to call some of those lawyers on Monday and see what they can do .... cause I'm gonna hit him when he least expects and his guard is down (he thinks I've let him off the hook after 5years of doing nothing but parenting by text) ... might hire some private investigators too.

my daughter is 18 but still in high school/ dependent so the statute of limitations hasn't expired quite yet and he owes A LOT in back child support.

then vs now

Disappear for years and show up. An old story.

In the late 1930s my aunt divorced her abusive to her husband when he started abusing their child. He moved across country and disappeared. In the 1960s a letter showed up addressed to the child. It was looking for the child to reconnect with the child as the 'dad' was quite ill. It was full of statements of how the dad regretted leaving and implied it was aunt's fault.

No answer was ever sent. Child had died in a drowning accident in the mid 1940s.

Looking back, I can't help but admire my aunt who divorced in a time when divorce was uncommon and frowned upon (no matter the reason). I also think of my grandfather and uncles, who when she called, organized to go get her and the child while the husband was at work. What today is an easy drive, was hours back then. I also admire my grandfather who, while not knowing the extent of the abuse, knew enough to urge her to leave when the abuse was just directed at her.

How tragic!

My paternal Gran divorced her husband who cheated on her with her sister (Aunt "Iris"). Grandma had two young sons at the time during WWII. There was no alimony nor child support back then to speak of. She went out and became employed and was very much the businesswoman quite wise but quite stern. Paternal Grandad, who I never met ended up dying on some tropical island during a coup d'etat.

My own two exes never paid any CS either. My first ex went to great extremes to get out of paying and my second ex went on welfare.

Which grinds my gears because essentially I have ended up paying Chef's CS to the Girhippo indirectly for almost 20 years now. After CS and taxes, he could never afford to live on his own.

That's so unfortunate the kid

That's so unfortunate the kid passed and the father was totally unaware.

They always slither back around when it's convenient for them then try to place the blame on other people to avoid responsibility

I think my ex still owes

I think my ex still owes child support $$ but when the kid (now) is over 35 I don't think it matters much anymore lol

Yes. It's like I want to make

Yes. It's like I want to make his life so uncomfortable for being a cheap psychopath but on the other hand I'm tired of throwing good money after bad and wasting my energy giving him narcissistic supply for whatever chump change he claims to only have.

You never know. My friend

You never know. My friend started getting child support payments when her daughter was in her thirties. Apparently, they were deducting it from his Social Security. She had a good laugh & took the daughter on a vacation. Biodad was not happy.

My dad told me his associate

My dad told me his associate got hit up for Child Support in his 60's .... as soon as he retired lol!!!

I might go back and file on this psychopathic POS just on the principal ...

He's been working under the

He's been working under the table for years and hiding his money so it's going to be harder than it was before to nail him.

When I sued him the same time

When I sued him the same time his ex wife did, I hired private investigators and process servers who showed up multiple times and his doorstep, took pictures, and compiled evidence to show his guilt.

I think I gave him narcissistic supply though

What really made him lose his mind was his ex wife getting him locked up for not paying her cs, he magically came up with the money to get out of jail...then I was on the cusp of him him locked up again here too but my sh-t for brains lawyer (who acted like he worked for my ex) clearly did not understand the assignment

It was beyond frustrating

But I'm going to strike when he least expects it and is not prepared.

Welcome to the club. At least

Welcome to the club. At least your worthless POS ex had the decency to piss off for 5 years. A lot of them stick around to exercise their supervised visits and that is waaaay worse. Don't ask me how I know. Sorry to hear he showed back up again to sniff around.

lol!

Thankfully he was out of town and on the "I'm pretending to be broke so I don't have to pay to support our kid" so I knew he wouldn't travel in to sue me in order to keep his charade running

As soon as he stopped paying I blocked his a$$

Not about to stress me out for free

Just get a contempt of court

For no CS. And get him out of your mind. He not going to pay. He not going to see his kids. Nothing you can do. Your DD will see in time what her father really is. He the one doing it . He will be the one who will pay for it in the end.

You have good point!

Am I wrong for telling her to BLOCK him

She's 18 now and I don't want to be the PAS type but to promise to see her, take care of his other kids but not here, and play his little narcissistic mind games (in addition to not providing for her) is just emotional manipulation I hate to see her experience/mess her up later in life

She has been ignoring most of his communication (the f*ck boy type texts...who the h3ll parents through texts) but I think she erroneously got her hopes up twice when he promised to see her then made some stupid excuse that he couldn't afford it and I had to pay all or half for him)

I have an ex like that, too.

I have an ex like that, too. When my kid was 16.5, he dropped them off at my house because they were being "difficult." By difficult i mean my kid didn't do my ex's laundry fast enough and when my ex would force them to run around the block to lose weight, my kid didn't do it cheerfully enough. I tried to sue for CS but because of their age and the fact that i had never received CS before (50/50 custody), it would have cost more than it was worth. I stay out of their relationship, because i also don't want to be one of "those" BMs. But my kid blocked him on their own because he would send them drunk texts in the middle of the night about missing them, but not when he was sober. If my kid does get back in touch with him, i won't discourage it, but I'm not going to advocate for a relationship, either. My kid has a full picture of how he is.

Spermidiot has to be the

Spermidiot has to be the biggest douchebag in history. Nilla - lol! Cringe!

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