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lilhousemaid89's picture

Ok so DH bitches and moans about how i am the adult, it is my job to suck it up and treat her with respect to get it.... So i called a family counselor this morning and now he is pissed because he would have to tell BM... well you know what i have to say to that..." GROW AN F'IN PAIN" she is your ex and you have full custody of your child.... I took the extra step and tried to get it to where maybe just maybe things could get a little better in my own house. so i wouldn't have to walk on egg shells around an 8 year old who isn't even my kid. Dont get me wrong i do love her but WTF DH your ex is your ex not your f'in mother. ya tell her what is going on not ask for her permission.

"F" the controlling whore BM, who doesn't even have custody of their kid.

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Shaman29's picture

Unbelievable. DH used to pull this with me and I was this || close to leaving DH.

If he is not going to have a come to Jesus meeting with his kid and explain to her that she MUST treat you politely and respectfully, then I suggest you disengage.

Don't tell them you're doing it. Just stop doing anything for his child. If she wants something send her to daddy. It's not like she's going to ask you nicely. Be polite to her, but don't engage her in conversations.

I mean it. Rides, friends over, help with homework, watching her, gifts, anything....stop doing it. If he talks about the BM, just shrug and say that's too bad. Your husband isn't doing you, your marriage or his kids any favors by allowing this behavior to continue.

lilhousemaid89's picture

I agree completely. Our relationship is almost not even there anymore because of SD and BM. The BM says jump he says how high pretty much. She gets her two week ends a month and dont have to pay any CS and she still calls all the shots in my house. I think i will disengage. slowly with drawl from her and not let it bother me. i have two bio kids and they need me more than someone who dont even want me.

Cupcakes for school party.... SORRY SISTER! Call your dead beat mom!!! Good luck with that! Smile

thinkthrice's picture

We never had custody but Guilty Daddy was in, well, full GUILT mode and would even call the BM (who makes a show of being MOTY, works for CPS but has zero parenting skills) to ask her how much TYLENOL he should give his "angels." Even though I am an experienced parent with two grown, productive children! Love the way these daddykins give away all their power to the BM; in his case, he has NO excuse to b/c he has custody!

You definitely need to disengage. He can't have his cake and eat it too! He's still scared sh#tless of the BM and is probably worried that if he doesn't treat his princess like a mini-wife, then princess will go running back to the BM. Yet he wants you to be her slave. No dice!