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Submitted by libbie on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 3:23pm

I am pissed at all of them right now. Yesterday bs lied to me and had dhs parents pick him up after school so he could go see Bear and tried to spend the night there, he had an epic meltdown when I went to get him. Today sd fainted after getting an allergy shot and the allergist said that he won't do them anymore and dh thinks that I am over reacting and that Bear is just a dog and why am I freaking out when we can just give him away. I am so done with all of them right now! I'm just done. I am picking up a bottle of wine on the way home and some take out for me and a few redbox movies. They can figure this out themselves!

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 3:33pm

Take you bio, get Bear, and move into your own place.

What does it matter if SD cannot handle an allergy shot?? This should be your DH's problem.

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Submitted by ESMOD on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 3:39pm

TBH.. that part made me wonder if this is made of whole cloth.

An allergist is going to be used to people who are afraid of needles and will know how to deal with it.

If this is still a real situation...

The girl's DAD needs to build a safe place for the dog and boy to play in the backyard. Think a "boy cave" insulated.. with heat. We created a guest pod out of a storage shed.. it CAN be done. The FATHER needs to do this for his WIFE so that her SON doesn't have to lose his companion and the DAUGHTER can live with out dying from allergic reactions.. sheesh.

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Submitted by libbie on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 3:59pm

I guess it's from the shot. I wasn't there but she fell over and off the exam table. I don't understand why dh wasn't watching or didn't catch her.

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 4:17pm

Well that was much quicker than when she fainted in the road. Curious as to how long before that road faint and the shot that time were?

If it's a fear thing, she can be worked with. I am a chicken sh*t of thinking something will hurt. I am the wimp who passed out at age 13/14 from getting my ears pierced. No, it did not hurt. My issue was I tensed myself up so tight and feared the worse. Yeah, without details given, you can just about imagine how well I handled my first pap test.

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Submitted by libbie on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 4:21pm

Oh gosh!! Omg! Lol i think it is a fear thing although she didn't put up a fight about getting the shots. I told her last night dh would get her a green shake afterwards and she was happy about it. Dh was on his damn phone instead of paying attention to her and when she passed out she hit the floor and she has a huge goose egg and bruise on her head. I am so mad at dh. I'm waiting outside of Chili's waiting for my take out and i didn't get anything for anyone else.

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 10:21pm

If there was a possibility she might faint, why didn't DH or the Doctor have her lay down? I can't believe they actually let her fall of the table. I give her credit for willingly trying the shots - can't blame her at this point if she wants to stop.

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Submitted by libbie on Fri, 03/17/2017 - 5:22am

It happened after the dr left the room. Dh was on his damn phone and not paying attention. I'm so hungover this morning. I know better than to drink cheap wine.

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Submitted by libbie on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 4:03pm

I'm not getting rid of Bear. I was hesitant to allow Bear to go to my inlaws to begin with. He is family so he will stay. I am just sick of being the only one coming up with ideas.

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Submitted by Stepped in what... on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 4:21pm

Maybe you realizing that you are the only one coming up with ideas is the point. The point that you are the only one besides your bio who cares about Bear.

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Submitted by Icansorelate on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 7:53pm

Dear Lord. it is time you put the best interests of your son first. He did not ask for any of this. Bring his beloved dog back and let your not so DH decide what he is going to do. PUT YOUR SON FIRST for a change.

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Submitted by Livingoutloud on Thu, 03/16/2017 - 9:38pm

She fell off the exam table???? Where was the doctor or the nurse at the moment????

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Fri, 03/17/2017 - 7:29am

The girl's DAD needs to build a safe place for the dog and boy to play in the backyard. Think a "boy cave" insulated.. with heat. We created a guest pod out of a storage shed.. it CAN be done. The FATHER needs to do this for his WIFE so that her SON doesn't have to lose his companion and the DAUGHTER can live with out dying from allergic reactions.. sheesh.
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This is the only way this will work if you want everyone to stay together. IMHO...I would not want to really stay with your DH. He sounds like an ass.

I do have a question...if Bear has been at the inlaws, why is SD getting the shots?

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Fri, 03/17/2017 - 7:53am

Ah, got cha. I don’t have allergies too bad so not familiar with it. I also thought that the dog was the ONLY reason she was taking the shots. I also thought the OP and DH basically sanitized the whole house after they got rid of the dog. I was unaware it could still bother her that bad.

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Submitted by ESMOD on Fri, 03/17/2017 - 9:00am

I think if they could make it so the dog doesn't come in the home.. and continue to clean and maybe put those hepa filters on their HVAC..eventually they will get a lot of the allergens out.

I know we are in spring pollen hell around here right now.

I am serious about the separate playhouse for the boy and his dog though. It is NOT that expensive to do and they can insulate it.. put in a window unit for AC.. space heater for heat. They can make it nice with a couch and even put a TV out there so the boy can hang out and maybe even "sleep over" with his buddy on occasion. Then you also fence in the yard and BEAR is happy... BOY is happy. GIRL can breathe and PARENTS can start fighting over something else..lol.

I actually don't see her DH as being a complete Ahole. He didn't want his daughter gone across the country. His daughter has life threatening issues. He figures this is his home too (even though it was libbie's before they got together). I mean, he certainly must be contributing to the cost of the house etc??? At what point do the spouses get to feel like it is also their home too with some rights? He is putting his daughter's well being over that of a dog.. and to a lesser extent, the boy's emotional bond with it. He may not completely "get" the boy's bond.. and in his mind safety for his daughter is better. At least the girl seems willing to try to do something and take the shots which at first she completely was against right?

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Submitted by ESMOD on Fri, 03/17/2017 - 9:50am

that's why I wasn't just advocating a "doghouse". My suggestion is to make it more like a clubhouse where the boy and his dog can spend a lot of time together.

I think that's better than the situation with the non-dog people inlaws.

The dog won't be in the "big house".. but at least he isn't sent to the pound right? I think it would also give a bit of separation that the therapist said was GOOD for the boy from the dog so he isn't so reliant. For those times he NEEDS the dog though.. he is right in the back yard.. not at some distant house.

It might have been a better place with the mom.. but apparently mom was willing to let her daughter stay and dad wants his daughter close to him.. can't blame him for that either.

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Submitted by robin333 on Fri, 03/17/2017 - 9:54am

Get a different doctor. That is the most wimpish doctor ever.

You know this is on your DH to figure out. Personally, I would tell him to take SD and go away for the weekend and not to return without a solid plan that doesn't include giving Bear away. Take that time to grab a GOOD bottle of wine and clarify your priority: your son.

Of course, I'm not a big fan of your DH. I cannot imagine asking any child that has been through what your son has to give up a pet that brings him comfort.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 03/22/2017 - 2:49am

SD is manipulating the whole thing... she wants Bear gone.... this is how I see it....

I would simply go and get my dog, and tell Dh - sorry but this is how it is, this is my house, Bear was here before you and SD, you have a couple off options..

1. SD stops being a shit and take her allergy meds
2. SD is shipped off to BM
3. You and SD move out