I agree with the above... I am very sorry that you are going through this. I know that it is not fair, and that it must be very painful to you to be treated with such disrespect... covering her babys face when you are around?! Goodness... it sounds to me that this 'woman' is too imature to be raising a child herself... but again, it is what it is. Just try to detach yourself, and focus on you.

I have a family member who is married to an older man...old school. He comes from a time when people acted appropriately, used manners and handled their business with dignity. I know, very different from our times.

Anyway, when his daughter was to be married, she wanted him to walk her down the isle. He agreed, of course. 2 weeks before the wedding, his daughter calls to tell him that her BMom would be uncomfortable if his Wife came to the wedding. She asked if they would consider her to be uninvited. He said, "I will not go anywhere or be involved in anything that my Wife is not invited or welcome to." He reminded her that this is not how she was raised and this is not how HIS family will be allowed to act.

His wife was re invited, he walked his daughter down the isle and BM sucked it up.

20 years later, everyone gets along fine.

I love a good story when Men take charge and handle their business. Don't you? What happened to our generation?

I have a family member who is married to an older man...old school. He comes from a time when people acted appropriately, used manners and handled their business with dignity. I know, very different from our times.

Anyway, when his daughter was to be married, she wanted him to walk her down the isle. He agreed, of course. 2 weeks before the wedding, his daughter calls to tell him that her BMom would be uncomfortable if his Wife came to the wedding. She asked if they would consider her to be uninvited. He said, "I will not go anywhere or be involved in anything that my Wife is not invited or welcome to." He reminded her that this is not how she was raised and this is not how HIS family will be allowed to act.

His wife was re invited, he walked his daughter down the isle and BM sucked it up.

20 years later, everyone gets along fine.

I love a good story when Men take charge and handle their business. Don't you? What happened to our generation?

I have a family member who is married to an older man...old school. He comes from a time when people acted appropriately, used manners and handled their business with dignity. I know, very different from our times.

Anyway, when his daughter was to be married, she wanted him to walk her down the isle. He agreed, of course. 2 weeks before the wedding, his daughter calls to tell him that her BMom would be uncomfortable if his Wife came to the wedding. She asked if they would consider her to be uninvited. He said, "I will not go anywhere or be involved in anything that my Wife is not invited or welcome to." He reminded her that this is not how she was raised and this is not how HIS family will be allowed to act.

His wife was re invited, he walked his daughter down the isle and BM sucked it up.

20 years later, everyone gets along fine.

I love a good story when Men take charge and handle their business. Don't you? What happened to our generation?

LOL. Sorry guys. My computer froze up and I kept pushing buttons. Didn't mean to re post over and over.

Your husband should put his foot down and tell her that her behavior towards you in unacceptable. You are a team. I would NEVER allow my children to treat my SO in that manner. If one of them said I could come visit, but only w/o SO, I would decline and say, "maybe another time when you've grown up and the both of us can come."