SO went to visit his dad and grandpa (who just moved in with SO's dad because his money grubbing wife just filed for divorce) Every year SO's dad's family has a big holiday party inviting all the family and renting a hall rather than trying to manage a bunch of people and holidays. SO doesn't go. However he's been working on his relationship with his dad so I brought up asking about when it is so we can go.
He called his dad the other day because the kids mentioned "we talked to grandpa when he called mommy yesterday" SO asked him why he called BM which was apparently to get the kids clothing sizes, and SO informed him he could just ask him since he has the kids all the time. SO told him their sizes. Then today on the visit asked about the gala and informed his dad that if he invited BM "we will not be there" his dads argument is that it's a big room we wouldn't even have to see her. The event is on SO's time with the kids so if BM is invited the kids won't be there either. I'm of the mind someone who refers to me as the C word every time she texts SO and won't have the kids, and hates SO's family shouldn't be invited but she'll be invited don't know if she'll go. I want to go because well I can not only tolerate uncomfortable situations but I can shine in social settings even full of strangers, and they fact I can schmooze with the best of them while BM is an ignorant ill mannered fool I'd also be able to make her very uncomfortable just by existing. I like SO's grandpa and it's time I get to be part of these family things. However I'm livid they even want to invite a woman who hates them. SO says we're not going. I'm hoping BM will decline, but I still want to go. If only to make her decide to leave. It would seem weird to go to an ex's family thing without the kids surrounded by people you don't like.
Least I adore my ex's family, they adore me and I only stick around long enough to exchange kids say hi, do a quick catch up and get out of the exh's way. (his gf and bff threatened to get my professional license revoked through false allegations if I even spoke to exh's family at this point his family isn't speaking to him over some bull he pulled after his dads death so I'm the on;y way the kids see them, and I'm done letting fear make my decisions.)
Point is I want to go to the party and screw BM I can behave like an adult can she?