BM has offered SO whatever kind of custody he wants including primary. He never said anything to me, i found out through other means, he only said he didn't know what I wanted how I felt about things, how my kids would feel so he never responded. Is primary best for the kids? For us? I don't know I think so yes after all I know about their life with her. Am I ready for that? I don't know I haven't thought that far ahead? I have my own plan B that's kept me going after my divorce can I modify it for two little ones, that depends on SO I suppose and what kind of full time parent he is going to be. My own kids think they'd be better off here with us, even though it would be crowded, 2 more mouths to feed not just eow, school, dr apts. Will he be willing to do the everyday parenting or does he expect since I'm already a mom for me to jump in and do the "mom" work. I think we need a serious talk but I don't know where to start. I have 2 more years of school, and plans for my and my kids lives because they are older and we can travel how do I make it work with much younger ones? I want whats best for everyone. Even if he were to get primary doesn't mean we can have a visitation schedule that allows plenty of time with BM to be mom right? I'm kinda freaked out about this and I really just want to focus on school not this. I like his kids, he's a good dad and doesn't let them run wild or be rude or disrespectful. His parenting is like mine so I don't think we'd clash there. but still.....