We talked to ss13. Well dh talked to him first. He asked him how this woman was around him, any touching, ss said no.

So after they talked, we all talked together.

Of course dh did not ask him how the pics came about. I had to press on that.

Ss said- he was at her house, he told her about the photo app. Was showing it to her. And he did not mind cropping/editing photos. Thats why there is no text between pics and the pics were sent back and forth. Then he went on with she does not have the app and something about you have to buy it.

Im still not sure what ss did to the pictures, on the bedroom pic, the one he sends back looks a little lighter, then he crops the last pic.

Im sure she could have handled that herself.

So we told him:

The picture she sent was not ok to a 13 year old.

Then we explained how she is an adult and could have downloaded the app herself. That she could have had her son help her.
There really is not a good enough reason for her to send the pics to his phone.

Then we blocked her from his phone. He got upset with that and starting making excuses about what if sams phone is dead, what if she needs to get ahold of sam while they are together.

I busted all that up with-sam has a phone- you do not need her number. Do we have your friends numbers on our phones? NO.(i feel bad because what ss does not get is they probably will not be friends anymore)

We told him he could still see sam outside or can invite him over here, but he is not allowed in her house. Dh added: at this time untill we talk to her. (Im not sure when he will talk to her, he does not want to talk to her)

I feel we should talk to her. Either way the kids friendship will suffer. I dont trust ss going over there anymore. Dh is on the fence-i think he still feels she just made a bad call and sent him pics without thinking about it. Sam has been inviting ss over and this weekend invited him to an indoor rock wall.

At some point this kid will give up. Ss is not great at handling telling someone no. Im waiting- but im sure this woman will contact dh soon.

The therapist comes this week im going to wait but if dh does not say anything about this im going to tell her. Maybe she can offer us some insight on what we should do for ss13.

This whole thing is out of my knowing what to do-this is stuff you read about!

Everyone i talked to(just family) says we should talk to her, invite her over, or invite ourselves over and talk to her.

Dh talked to his mother and grandmother and they told him to wait till she contacts him.

I dont know. I really dont think we should wait.

Anyway thats where we are at.