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kindness214's picture

My bf has a wonderful son that i adore. His mother HATES me. I have never even spoken to this women but she has such hatred for me it's a little psycho. She has taught the child to call me terrible words in spanish. She will not allow him to speak a word to me in front of her. Shw tells him that she doesn't like me so he shouldn't When we go to drop him off he doesn't even say good bye because he doesn't want her to give him any flack for it. I keep trying to ignore her but this is crazy I really love my bf but I can't take much more from this women.

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mommommom's picture

I hate that kids are stuck in situations with ridiculous roller coaster BM's. My SD4 has a BM like this. Just burns me up, but I will tell you one day it will come back to bite BM in the butt! Just do what you think is right and try your best not to involve or say mean and nasty things about BM in front of your BF's son. Sometimes it gets hard! Good luck! Smile

alwaysme's picture

We have a BM like yours, SD9 and SS12 will not even talk to me at all if we are at events that the BM is at as well, i get furious at them. I end up yelling at DH and telling him his children are rude little assholes because i get so mad at this woman. If they say hello to me or even acknowledge me the mother pitches a fit at them and spreads abuse about me to the kids. I feel sorry for the kids but it really pisses me off that Step Mums are treated like shit. I Blame DH cos he should grow some balls and tell BM to grow the hell up. You are not alone.
Tell your BF to pull BM into line, her behaviour is childish but be comforted by the fact that she is jealous as hell of you. That always makes me feel better.....

I have never even spoken to BM either but she hates my guts as well.

Kb3Hooah's picture

She has taught the child to call me terrible words in spanish. She will not allow him to speak a word to me in front of her.

-------------> How do you know this to be fact? And does your BF do or say anything to handle things?

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kindness214's picture

The child admitted that his bm taught him this. When BF confronted BM she denied it as usuall she always denies everything or just says whatever. BF did talk with ss and he knows that they are bad words that should not be spoken about any one.

life84's picture

That's really sad that some people choose to be this way. And furthermore, they teach their children hatred because of their own ignorance and insecurity. If I were you, If possible, I would stop going with my BF to drop the child off. I would only go to things like school functions, sports outings, etc. I would tell your BF that if he won't talk to BM at least have a conversation with his son about what how it is wrong to talk badly about people and treat them mean despite what BM says because if you guys continue a relationship, he will think it is alright to disrespect you.