I've been a stepmom for about a year now. I'm pretty lucky in my step life especially compared to some of the stories I've read on this forum. The only drama in my step life is from BM and it's minor since she's not in the picture. My HF and I raise the Skids full time, SD13 and SS11. BM is an alcoholic and last mothers day she downed her great grandpas scotch that was given to him by the Secretary of State upon his retirement from some high rank in the Army back in the 50's. She started threatening suicide and passed out and her kids couldn't wake her up so they called HF for rescue. That would be the last time they saw her and aside from a few random drunk-slur calls, haven't spoken to her in nearly a year as well. HF was given a child support order from family court last November and submitted it to the child support office right away. BM used to be a pretty good drunk chef back in her day and after awhile, got a little too hammered and stopped being able to hold down jobs. The last few years she gets line cook jobs for months at a time until she forgets to wake up and come to work or someone finds her bottle of jack stashed in the walk in. We knew she was a line cook job at a restaurant downtown because she bragged about it on Facebook. HF told the child support office where she worked and we didn't see a dime ever. Just last month the office sent a letter asking if he had received any money. So we assumed they were going to garnish her. Still nadda. Also she posted a goodbye to her co-workers on Facebook last month. I think she would've bragged more if she was going to a different job and wouldn't have said anything if she had been fired. She's a professional addict and hides everything negative as much as possible. When you read her Facebook and look at her pics, you'd have no idea she passes out and pisses herself every night. Anyway, I think she bailed and went to live with her gypsy mom who looks like a Raisin at age 70 and may be living in Oklahoma. HF and I are conflicted about telling Child Support about this. One, we don't have an address or even a city (HF could probably get them if he really tried) and two, maybe she is gone for good. Maybe the children won't ever have to step over her passed out body laying on the kitchen tile at 3 in the afternoon again. Maybe we don't have to deal with her drunk 2 am calls screaming about how bad of a mother I am again. But on the other hand, I'm so tired of her getting away with everything. The money would help, but obviously we can do fine without it. I just want to see her held accountable for once. Her whole family just acts like being wasted all the time is a personality trait or something. And they are all mad at HF for not sticking it out with her ( he was with her 17 years, she was wasted for at least 12 of them and he stayed with her during her failed stint in rehab) She got out of a DUI here in Colorado back when the laws where lax and just gets a line cook job whenever she finds one, rents a room, buys her booze, gets fired, gets evicted and starts over again. No parental responsibilities, no worries. And I know she tells everyone we turned her kids against her when we've allowed them to communicate with her anytime they want, they choose not to and she changed her number and never gave it to them. I really want her ass thrown in jail. It would probably put her liver in shock. Anyway, advise, which way would you step parents who've had BM's and BF's in and out of the kids lives go? Is it worth pursuing her? And if so, what are the next steps with the Child Support office?