I met my wife when my stepson was 22.

My stepson is now 30 years old.

He has had ongoing issues with authority, believes he is smarter than everyone else and seems to benefit from an endless stream of handouts from "friends." He has been working laborer jobs in construction that haven't lasted a year. For the past year he has been working as a security guard. I had been hoping he had turned his life around with a steady job.

Ten years ago, my stepson was discharged from the army.
During boot, he was apparently badly beaten in a blanket party.
On weekend leave, he did not return to base. My wife found him and dragged him back to base. After a few months he received an other than honorable discharge.
Since then he has been bragging about being a "special forces sniper." Having done multiple tours in Bosnia and the middle east. And that he was discharged for hitting a superior officer.
None of my in-laws seems to have a problem with this behavior. I am alone in voicing that this is wrong and dishonors legitimate veterans.

Seven years ago, he attended Georgia Military College to study history with financial aid from his grandfather. He flunked out in his freshman year. He now tells everyone that his mother could not afford his continued studies.

My wife raised him as a single mother. She did the best she could to provide for him and often had to work two jobs. He has always whined about not getting enough attention. He has a six year old child born out of wedlock. To this date, I do not believe he has ever spent a dime on child support. He lives in a different state from this boy.

Last year he got into a fight with a teenaged girl and broke her nose.

This year he got a large obnoxious "Erinn go brach" tattoo and argued when his mother told him that his family was not irish. By the way, he brags about fighting and being a tough guy on his facebook.

He constantly hounds my wife for financial assistance.

I don't have much of a relationship with him. The few times I've tried to counsel or suggest anything to him, I've been told I'm stupid.

I really don't want anything to do with him. Recently he asked my wife if he could stay with us because of the flooding in Iowa. I seriously contemplated divorce.