BM Always getting brought up by my boyfriends family members
My boyfriends baby mama is always getting brought up whenever i'm present, its extremely frustrating.
My bfs family is always bringing up his ex gf,,,,,,,, for example : Oh i talked to blank she said she would be signing up bella for pre school soon !
What can I do in a situation like this ?
HIs mom has mistaken my name with hers!!!!
her name being brought up by his family is torture!! HELP
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^^Good advice^^ And, very,
^^Good advice^^
And, very, very true. My BS-13 comes home from a visit with his father and shouts "Dad? Dad? Oh, Mom!, Mom, sorry ..." Honest-to-God every freakin' visit.
Assume the best, that they have fried memory cells like the old computer screens which used to get things burned into them back in the Dark Ages before screen savers.
aw HELL NO. i'm hoping
aw HELL NO. i'm hoping he/she immediately stopped, got dressed, and LEFT.
"Oh i talked to blank she
"Oh i talked to blank she said she would be signing up _____ for pre school soon !"
What can I do in a situation like this ?
In an instance such as the example you gave, I'd think nothing of it. It wasn't said to offend you nor was it meant to be an introduction to a conversation about BM. I'm going to assume your BF was also told this preschool tidbit by BM if not actually active in the decision. Something moving the topic along and away from BM 'yes, BF mentioned SD was to start preschool. I think this will be very good for SD. I know when SD is very eager when we sit and have a storybook together'.
As long as she wasn't just bringing BM up to bring her up and/or gossip (oh BM this and BM that, did you hear BM colored her hair). That would be unnecessary and rude to expect you to converse over or want to hear all about.
The accidental name? Yes that one had to bite, but even you acknowledge it was not done deliberately. Just politely correct her. As long as she s genuinely trying o be welcoming and friendly, accepting you , give her a break. If you truly believe she's deliberately malicious in manner toward you then you speak to BF about it.
ETA: You may want to remove the child's name from your post.
OMG! There is not a family
OMG! There is not a family function that BMs name is not brought up. It is usually negative things but I can't stand it. Why do they constantly think about her they have been separated for 5 years. Almost as long as they were together. Does no one think I may not like hearing about her at EVERY family get together. I have made up my mind that the vest time it happens I will simply get bio kids and leave. I feel your pain.
Same thing happens to me.
Same thing happens to me. SO's SM brings BM up EVERY time we go over her house. It's always bad mouthing her, but I get so sick of hearing about BM. She has never in six years asked about my life. Has no desire to know me as a person. Just uses me as a sounding board to bad mouth BM. You would think as a SM herself she would understand, but nope. She even has a pic of BM on her wall. SO and BM were together for 7yrs. SO and I have been together for 6yrs. I don't get it. I told SO I wasn't dealing with it anymore. I even refused to go on a family vacation that I love this year because I would be stuck on a boat with his SM for 10+ hrs a day.
I think the other's are
I think the other's are right...it will take time to get her out of their brains. Or maybe they are just clueless and don't care who they mention her in front of. My SIL is rotten like that. My MIL has a few times called me BM's name, but BM was in DH's life for 20 years, and our names start with the same letter. She always apologizes.
My DH called me BM's name once when he was drunk and in front of friends (who have never met BM). The looks on their faces were priceless, but unfortunately DH doesn't remember it, and doesn't want to believe he did it. In conversation, he NEVER refers to her name. She has been called "The Ex" for as long as we've known each other.
My MIL and BM are BFF's. So
My MIL and BM are BFF's. So neither DH or I speak to her. When she can get her priorities straight, maybe we will revisit having a relationship with her.
OMG ladies, i just got called
OMG ladies, i just got called dumbass' name!!!! :sick: :sick: :sick:
i called dr's office to pay off 22.00 balance on yss' account, and the lady said "ok, so u're dumbass, right?" i literally laughed at her and said "HELL no. wait - how in the world did her name get tied into this? dh has had full custody for two years!"
oh but the sound of her accusing me of something so heinous made me want to vomit!!!! thank god neither dh nor any of his family have had any name confusion.
anyhoo, OP, if it bothers you, just remove yourself. i always find it amusing when someone brings up dumbass, always have. it's entertaining what a clusterfuck she is }:)