OSD, 39 has been living with us for over a year. She lost her job due to gambling problems When she lost her job; she also lost her cell phone.(work cell phone). So, I told her ok I would add her to our plan; but, she was paying her share of the phone bill, internet, and tv. It came out to $100.00 per month. She pays nothing else to live her. Part of the agreement was that I would not have to hound her for her share; and she was to go to GA meetings. She has only attended a couple of GA meetings and that was last summer. She is 2 months behind on her phone bill with August due now. Yesterday I confronted her (her dad was sitting there) She started to cry. I felt she was trying to manipulate me. She can afford the $100.00. If you can get a pedicure, your nails done and your hair dyed professionally and plan to go away for labor day weekend with your boyfriend then you can keep your commitments. I reiterated the agreement; she had no defense because it was the truth. She did pay the money. I have told dh that I don't agree with letting her slide with not going to meetings or paying what she owes me. He is so soft. Again, I guess he feels guilty. I don't feel guilty. She has a mother who does nothing. Same ole same ole. I can say one thing with conviction; if she gambles again she is out of our house. I don't see changes in her behavior and I feel she will gamble again. By the way, I have spent years in Alanon. I know from experience if behaviors do not change the addiction will rear it's ugly head again.